Family and Caregiver Schizophrenia Discussion Forum

Cannot come to terms


#44

I can’t even imagine myself driving in Los Angelos!
But for my daughter, even in a small town I am nervous about her driving.


#45

If your daughter has insight, there can be a lot of supports in place for her if she chooses to go to college. I think you are right to support her in making choices that work best for her and just taking it slow.

In “this day and age”, there are so many ride options, she may not need to drive. If a person isn’t paying for gas, car payments and service, the cost of Uber or Lyft doesn’t seem so bad! I bet there are even ways to work out agreements to get a regular pickup/dropoff schedule. I recently heard about new services being set up for providing transportation for kids whose parents work. Something along those lines might be suitable.


#46

I have not done this but my friend does and she also takes/took her daughter here for psychotherapy for attachment issues. This is therapy with horses. I believe you don’t even get on the horse. Your daughter may find this helpful for anxiety… http://www.twinoaksfarm.com/

Maybe you can find something like this close to you.


#47

Hippotherapy! It can be wonderfully calming. Check to see if the horse community near where you live has anyone practicing this. We are lucky in my town to have a couple of people who are trained- one does riding as physical therapy and one works with people who have anxiety and other disorders.
Since your daughter loves horses, I suspect this will be a good idea for her.


#48

I am an artist. Encourage your loved one to express themselves! My son won’t let me work with him yet, because ‘I am the artist’, but I know it’s very helpful for those who can’t express themselves any other way. I am going to attempt to get him interested in sculpture, I am a painter. The schizoprenics I have encountered are usually extremely gifted in the arts, they just need encouragement to let that creativity flow. Definitely encourage your daughters interest in the arts, no matter what sculpture, drawing, painting, quilting, sewing, etc.!


#49

If she does go to college, she would study art, with an emphasis in textiles… and if she goes, it would be at the same college my son is going to now.


#50

Ooo, textiles! What are her interests??


#51

She makes these beautiful stuffed art dolls… she has made two cats and a dragon… but she also loves to make costumes


#52

I’d love to see, if she would be willing to let you share!


#53


This is the white cat she made… I don’t have any pictures of the dragon…or a black cat she has made recently. She makes these without any pattern!


#54

Oh, that is AWESOME!


#55

LOVE it! A beauty!! Amazing that she can do that without a pattern!


#56

Will she go to FIT? She’s talented.


#57

I am not sure what FIT is


#58

Fashion Institute of Technology in New York City.


#59

We are not even sure if she is ready to go to college at this point… school is her biggest source of anxiety. She is trying to figure out what to do after high school graduation this year, but even thinking about that dan give her anxiety at times… whatever she decides, we will support her.


#60

Hi Annie . You are an inspiration to me and I have only had very few interactions with you via this website and still you give me hope for my situation in terms with finding peace and acceptance among all else.
Like other have said put you first and focus on the things you can control . I think self care in all this seems to get put on the back burner not just when it comes to the MI but as caregivers family and especially mothers etc.
I think you deserve to treat yourself to a spa day and just sorta check out for a while and relax. Sending positive vibes and thoughts your way, Ali


#61

I am with you on this, I have two sons who have been in and out of psychosis for 15 months, one with SZA, the other with severe bp1 with psychosis, or SZA, both with multiple hospitalizations. It is simply awful, I feel numb, I can’t sleep, I can’t even cry any more, I feel blindsided, a one two punch. Trying to hold on to my daughter who is walking a very fine line between sanity and severe mental illness…


#62

Oh @caringmom , how much stress you are surviving through!! I wish I could give you a hug and a calming cup of herbal tea. I have a sleep problem also, and started putting REAL attention on solving it recently. It has made a big difference for me. I surely hope that your daughter is able to weather the storm.


#63

It is bitter sweet- this illness mixed with creative souls. My son is very skilled builder and does beautiful work, but cannot do it as expected in a work place. The pressure causes him extreme anxiety and anxiety causes increased paranoia.

For a while he was selling things at a store front, but then someone suggested he start taking orders. The pressure got to be too much. So if she does decide to sell on Etsy, can she sell only finished product and not take orders?