Do you trust them? How? With what? How far do you trust them? What wouldn’t you trust them with?
I personally trust my afflicted siblings with everything because they didn’t show me so far something to make me not to trust!!! I know they love me and want me to be happy even if they don’t verbalize it anymore (due to illness & isolation). However, sadly, brother and mother (with instructions from a what I call a bad psychiatrist) since three years ago keep the house door locked and hide key after a bad psychotic episode with afflicted sibling and they led her to believe she can go out only accompanied by them anywhere she wants (until she agrees to getting treatment!) and took her mobile from her because they feared she runs away and get into trouble after another psychotic episode (I know it may make no sense to you, it STILL doesn’t make sense to me and they would never do this if I was there but I wasn’t). They think they are doing this for her own good and to protect her but it only made her go worse. They lock their own rooms too whenever they leave the house because they worry she’d steal from them!
I do not do that whenever I visit/stay with her, I’m not the best human!!! but I think it’s common sense to me that if I trust her she’d trust me back and we can build from there which we are tiny bit at a time!!! because she doesn’t like other members of the family, she doesn’t sit with them, she runs away when they cross her path, but she doesn’t do that with me, she’s calm around me, if I’m in the kitchen washing dishes, she has no issue preparing herself a meal next to me. Last week she even sat with me to watch tv for first time in 3 years while others weren’t at home! I think it has to do with empathy and trust!!!
My afflicted loved one after all what she went through and the (ignorant?) reactions of family, reached a point where she doesn’t want to go out of the house and hasn’t seen outdoors AT ALL in 3 years and doesn’t respond to my suggestions of going out for walks. I also tried to give her a mobile phone and she refuse it. I believe all this is her way of protecting herself from disappointment of things being taken away from her… but I don’t know what she thinks because she doesn’t talk. I believe that whatever they did was totally unacceptable but the damage is done the moment they did it (it didn’t cause her illness, she was ill since teenager but I believe it made it worse), if the house entry is now wide open, she wouldn’t go out and would still lock her self in room. Many of you talk about how isolation and lack of communication are common symptoms of scz especially if unmedicated and I am reading about it but I also think it could’ve been better situation if they trusted her? Isn’t things better with kindness and understanding?
I am new to educating myself about what’s happening, I’m reading and going to CBT doctor to help me on how to communicate with my afflicted loved ones, but I have little experience, can you share your experience with trusting your afflicted loved ones please?