Please give advice or share your experience.
Mom unmedicated for at least 25 years. Dad getting some early Alzheimers and is co-dependent enabling her, and ALSO fighting with her constantly.
It costs about $800 dollars to visit my parents round trip, I live far away. I have to live with them when there. The house is decaying, dark, difficult to breathe due to smell and mold.
The papers are high, the mice are there. They BOTH refuse maintenance. They BOTH refuse assistance. Mom was hiding Dad’s “evil” medications, including insulin.
The house is so COLD in winter I could not change my clothes and the pipes were frozen. Dad lies on a bare mattress, he had lice.
Their minivan is poorly maintained and riddled with bullet holes (they are the only whites and they get targeted).
Adult Protective Services will do NOTHING until…what? Until someone dies? They are useless. I had to physically restrain Mom with a bear hug to try to get a contractor to look at some home repairs…he refused to do the home repairs for any amount of money.
They refuse roofing, siding, electric, heater, etc. I can’t let this continue, but there is no option for me. GUARDIANSHIP?
Can I do it living so far away?
I would like to let them live in the place they want to live, and near the grandkids that they raised for my brother (single dad with cancer). I have no help and no support.
Anyone tried guardianship? Is it hard to get guardianship when they DON’T WANT it?
I am afraid they will squander the remaining money they have fighting me in court. Please help with advice.
Has anyone done guardianship from out of state???