Hi everyone! I’m comforted to come across this website and from reading others’ posts. To know that my family is not alone gives me such relief!
Right now, and throughout the past seemingly endless years, even though I’m 6’2" and 200 pounds, and she is much smaller than me, I am so scared of my sister. She is almost 32 (I’m 30), and we both live with our mom. I moved back here almost four months ago to get another college degree, and the declined mental state of my sister immediately disturbed me.
I found out from my mom that, except for maybe a couple short trips with my mom to grab some food, my sister hadn’t left the house–and still hasn’t–since before Christmas 2016! She’s going on 8 months now confined to her bedroom and walk in closet day and night. When I first moved back, I could tell she wasn’t herself but she was putting up a sweet front…she took me into her room and closet, where it looked like she had been sleeping on the floor instead of on her bed. She is frightened by the outside world…she has draped blankets over all her windows and even over cubbies and clothing racks in her closets.
She has removed smoke detectors because the red lights made her think someone was watching her…Now, and for the past four plus months, she comes out to use the bathroom or to get something to eat occasionally but then shuts herself back in. Doesn’t usually respond when Mom or I call out to her. She hasn’t been diagnosed or treated, but from my psych degree and research I know it’s a form of sz because I’ve documented conversations with her and things our Mom has told me and also things she’s done that show she has had many delusions and multiple hallucinations (including crawling sensations in her skin, hearing voices and possibly visual).
It’s so sad but also really frustrating…she is extremely moody and defensive. Been walking on eggshells for years and years around her. Because she has depended on both our parents for years for support, I’ve asked them both to help intervene but they are very reluctant to take action as far as getting her involuntarily taken to the emergency room to get evaluated–afraid of costs, fear of her refusing to take medicine. I feel stuck.
But I hate that my sister is stuck. I love her. Recently my mom and I have both noticed foul smells in the air, including feces and since yesterday I smell urine coming from her room, and I haven’t seen or heard evidence of her using any toilets very much if at all for the past several days and weeks. I just want to bust down her door and force her into my car to the emergency room myself but that would terrorize her and traumatize her more. She’s almost completely unresponsive and hasn’t agreed to getting help since May. What should we do?