My wife was involuntarily admitted to hospital in April 18 after having had her first episode of psychosis. We are both 30. The Dr’s, months after she was out, told us that it was an episode of psychosis - otherwise unspecified possibly due to stress. There was intense paranoia, delusional thought processes very bizarre behaviour - consistent however with acute psychosis. She had to have a lumbar puncture and after it she was convinced she was paralysed… she wouldn’t drink water willingly as it was poisoned…it was quite an acute episode. I noticed over Septmeber/October that she may not be taking her meds. I ended up changing my bed time habits to coincide with hers so that i could see her taking the meds which she did. After that i just kept an eye on things, not wanting to accuse her. I would notice that she would go to bed without taking them. I would then offer to bring them in with a glass of water and she would always say no i’ll get it. She had been withdrawn socially since May, however i put that down to what she went through etc… looking back she was also withdrawn before April also… Fast forward to December and i my wife has left me wanting time and space to think about things and us. This was such a shock to me, like completely out of the blue. We keep in contact via phone calls, then they stopped and then via text. Mid Decemeber I get a call from her private psychologist breaking confidentiality. She called me to say she was concerned for my wife and that in her words i was trying to poison her, had convinced the people around her she was sick (parents and Dr’s) and that i was doing this because i didn’t want her to succeed at work. I then asked her psychologist if she was aware of exactly what happened in April - she said that your wife told me she was in hospital due to stress. I ran through the exact details and her psychologist said wow, i had no idea about this she never told me. The psychologist also said that my wife admitted to not having taken her medication for ‘quite some time’. Long story short, her family were not willing to intervene and no one knew where she was. I had to put my marriage to the side and do everything i could to get her the help. I ended up having to get the police involved which was so upsetting for me. They really were great to deal with. The officer who was looking after my wife before going to hospital said to me that she was complaining about spiders crawling through her hair. This was a new symptom to me… So i go through all the steps to get her into hospital, again she is admitted involuntarily.
She doesn’t want me involved in her care at all and has said that the Dr’s are not to contact me about her at all. Therefore i don’t know what the diagnosis is. Reading up on the major MH diagnoses i am thinking it could be schizo-formative but i’m just not 100% sure as i’m not a Dr.
This is so heartbreaking… the December episode has clearly centred on me as the main target and i am worried i will never get my wife back. Will her new baseline have these feelings towards me or not?
She has made public on social media that we have separated… which is so out of character for her, she is a very private women. What do i do, how do i know if she does want a divorce or am i still dealing with symptoms here? She is still in hospital so that is 21 days so far. Not one word from her family to even say… we don’t agree with how you went about getting her help but thank you. Does anyone have a similar story? Can you please give me some guidance?