Some recent events have had multiple people suggesting that I need to have my husband’s power of attorney. Up until now, I thought power of attorney was a pretty serious thing reserved only for dire circumstances like a completely incapacitated individual (very very elderly, or special needs individuals) My husband is, by most outside perspectives, highly functional for an individual with SZA. He has a job, he mostly has insight for when he is starting to be symptomatic, he is med compliant. Most of his perceived functionality relies on intensive support from me, and emergency precautions we have in place. (psychiatrist available for emergencies, our budget is not dependent on his income, etc)
The immediate problem is that he can’t do most administrative things on his own. I handle all of our finances, taxes, retirement, applications, etc. (For example, he accidentally broke our garbage disposal, and insisted that because he broke it, he needs to put in the work order with our apartment to come fix it. That was … a while ago. We still do not have a working garbage disposal.)
I like to joke about it, but it’s also not especially funny. It’s almost a trigger for him, because he starts to get angry that he has so much trouble, and then he starts feeling paranoid that “the government is trying to trick him” with the forms/bureaucratic red tape. I usually do the paperwork to avert a paranoia cycle, or worse.
Recently, I was on the phone trying to deal with a financial matter in my husband’s name. I had a legal adviser working with me, but we had to stop because she couldn’t legally work with me on my husband’s behalf without power of attorney. She was otherwise super helpful, but we’re at a roadblock. I could have my husband with me to just be there and consent to things, but that seems like a dangerous stressor. She advised me that power of attorney would only help me care for my husband, especially if he gets to a point where he is hospitalized again.
What should I do here?