Our beautiful son is 25 and was diagnosed when he entered college to be suffering with schizoaffective disorder. It’s helpful to read the ideas here about what other parents have tried. I like the idea of a living situation with other people who are mentally ill. We have him in independent living now, which is just renting a bed with other people, but he’s having to do chores and manage his symptoms which is a relief to see that he can live successfully without us. We’re going to use this as leverage to negotiate a new normal for when he moves back home. I think now we align his social security payments (newly approved) with his budget and what we will and will not subsidize based on his participation in work or volunteering.
It’s been disappointing but I’m managing it that no one is really working with our son on charting out a new life. I think we just have to get the medication mix right first as the voices dominate his life and consequently ours when we’re with him. Thank God he’s now cooperating with his medical team to work on this and is in addictive and mental health biweekly sessions so the path is started.
So I guess I’m hoping the answers is in not enabling him unless he figures out things that would bring him peace, engagement or satisfaction because I know boredom for our son leads to addiction which has lead to jail and if he gets arrested again it will be for along time. God is good and we’re a work in process