OH NO - this is awful news, I am so sorry @AnnieNorCal
I know that you have to guess, but surely this must mean that they have medicated your Lou to some level of competence. Frustrates me so much, they medicate them and then say “look they are competent and now we can try them for something they did when they weren’t competent”.
We were clueless with the symptoms our son was showing early on. Like you, I would tell people something was wrong, something was different. Everyone just offered up different excuses as to why he was different. I think my son was both clueless and good at hiding the changes - if that make sense.
In July our other son’s friend was found guilty of criminally negligent homicide. Medicated for bipolar at the time, they blamed him for his child’s death. He had taken his medication late the night before and was groggy the next day after staying up all night tending to his sick child. The prosecution said that was negligent behavior. Its a difficult world for people suffering from brain disorders.