I’m glad I established right up front that if my son is going to live in housing I provide, I must have access to the house.
Since I am there almost daily, I stay ahead of clutter. My son isn’t bad other than not putting dirty dishes into the washer.
When he was very sick he destroyed multiple interior doors. I tried to repair, but one room that should have 2 doors has no doors, one that had a door has no door, and his bedroom has lost the top panel on the door. Also the front door, which is a sturdy metal door has many dents on the inside, from being kicked.
He has broken several chairs, he currently has 1 dining room chair.
The dining table top is just placed on top, since he broke the attaching parts.
Several of the kitchen cabinet doors are missing.
There is a crappy stove I got second hand, since he smashed the glass top of the one that was in the house.
He managed to break a window at one point, putting a chair thru it.
There are currently some patches in plaster walls (where one chair was recently smashed).
All of these things explain why my son cannot live with me and my husband.
I will make repairs if I can, but no longer rush to do it. If he broke it, it can stay broke until I’m ready to deal with it.