My son is almost 37. In February this year he developed some severe delusions and hasn’t spoken to anyone in our family since then. He told me that he was fired from his job in August, 2016 and suffered extreme anxiety and depression from then until January, 2017. He said that he went to a psychiatrist in January but the person was a fool. When I look back I can see that he had been having delusions, paranoiac and grandiose, for about 10 years. I suspect that he’s had two major episodes during which he was really cruel to me but he didn’t break off contact. One of his delusions was about weight loss and I think made himself really sick with kidney stones.
During almost all of this time he continued to work and have his own apartment. Last I heard (in Feb) he wasn’t working but he’s in IT and can make good money even working part time. I’ve had the local police do a wellness check but he was calm and told them that we are having family issues.
He has explicitly said he doesn’t want me to contact him either directly or indirectly, including sending a registered letter to that effect. He doesn’t respond to contacts from anyone in the family. In June I started emailing him once a month with family updates and I always end by telling him that I love him. He has not responded.
My question is this. Would you push him or wait for him to come around? I’m worried that if I go to his apartment (1 1/2 hrs away) he might move and then I won’t be able to find him.