We had him tested and enrolled in another state for a year of middle school. That situation that resulted is a long one and although interesting, was not successful. Hallucinations and suicide attempts x3 in one year, age 12/13. (He is now almost 14yo.)
The dr then recommended that a teacher be sent to our home twice a week for several months and was quickly approved. The teacher was great, but did take notice that (which was validating in a sad way) his medications were very sedating and he has an extremely difficult time with school.
She brainstormed ways in which he can learn most effectively (for him), and this helped a great deal. Using a television screen instead of books, using a keyboard instead of printing, utilizing web based programs instead of printouts, etc. These are certainly much less stressful ways for him to study.
We’re in LA now…they told us last time we lived here that their schools weren’t really set up for him. This time they say that they might be able to fit him into their autism like programs.
Please note: husband and son are against this. Husband doesn’t want him “stigmatized”, and son doesn’t want “the lights” in the classroom. Husband has a good point in another area: our son is the sweetest, most tender hearted person. He truly does not want to upset anyone. Husband is concerned as to what behaviors our son will be exposed to, and may possibly pick up and make his own. Son remembers being mainstreamed, but also that he had two classes a day with special ed. The other classmates were a real issue. It doesn’t help that son “falls in love” and begins planning on wife and family with a certain girl, and then begins to struggle with this reality. (He’s still in his very early teens!)
Dr wants him to undergo more extensive testing through the hospital to determine developmental delays, etc. They team wants him to settle after our recent move (again), undergo testing (which they suspect will be very stressful as finds his dr visits stressful), and limit any other stress.
The message I’m getting from everyone involved (even teachers) is that public school/modified public school is too much for him. He’s pretty flat in affect and emotion until stressed. STRESSED…and that’s all it takes for some of the most horrendous hallucinations to begin. The stuff he “saw” and experienced was scary for everyone at his last school. (Can we mention the things they “see”? They are upsetting to say the least.)
He qualified for special ed, but they wanted him mainstreamed (I used to work with the disabled, so I get the paperwork, etc.) Now they say it’s too much, unless I really want to push it.
I feel guilty, because after what happened last time, I (for the first time am admitting this) really don’t want to push things. I worry for his future though without formal academics. Then again…what future if he’s so stressed that he doesn’t end up having a future?
I think I just started a new subject. Apologies if I’m supposed to put school dialog in another place.