Side funny: my son cannot relate to younger children, especially toddlers. I used to watch a neighbor boy, about 2 years old, maybe less. Son kept referring to “the creature”. Eventually he became “that baby creature”. He was serious, and could only handle about 30 minutes. Everything this child did was strange to him. He’s been around children, young ones too. He does not like being around “baby creatures”. It was as if he had never acknowledged that young children exist.
He doesn’t want to be around anyone but me. Sometimes he says he wants to spend time with Dad, but right now he’s just checking that out. This means he enters the living room, says something out of context/off/confusing…paces a little, sits down awkwardly, then begins twitching or laughing…and leaves. That’s what he means by “checking it out”. Dad seeks him out, interrupting his computer gaming. THAT is where son basically lives.
On the main topic of hiding thoughts: son for a long time NEVER had episodes in public with Dad. He just appeared quiet and contained. I felt like it was my fault, I was imagining or WORSE: causing the events. Nope…he just had more time with me, and the stuff I do isn’t exactly like what Dad does (errands/doctor appointments/bills/DMV/Bank/etc). Son refuses to go into most stores now. Husband says he refuses to go to WalMart, so he “gets it”.