My son was diagnosed with Schizophrenia 3 years ago. One month after his first psychotic break, my husband passed away. I really don’t think I can have him live in the home anymore. When he was taking his medicine he was constantly arguing with me to not take it. He would keep me up all hours of the night wanting me to agree that he was fine and medicine was not required. Almost a month ago he refused to take any more of his meds. He is 6’4" and 185 pounds and I am unable to physically force him to take them. I told him that if he didn’t take his meds he had to leave the house. He agreed.
He clearly needs his medicine. Since he has been off his meds he has torn open two of my walls looking for notes that he said he placed in there. (which he did not). Overflows the toilet constantly in which I awake or come home to a flooded basement. I am constantly cleaning up after him with clothes, food, drink, and laundry (because he changes 5 times a day). I am fearful of what I might come home too. Quite honestly, I don’t want to come home to my own house. I love my son but know I can’t live like this every day. If my husband was still living, we could lean on each other.
What I am looking for is advice from those that have been in a similar situation and how they went about removing a loved one and finding the right place for him. I will still be there for my son but us leaving together is causing me health issues and also impacting my performance at work.