Boy do wish I knew the answer to your question I don't know if there is an answer. An article I read recently indicated that we parents are much more worried, saddened by their quality of life than they are and that they can become just used to it. It's hard to accept that anybody could be happy when they have no friends or hobbies, no job, etc. I ask my son if he is depressed. He always says he is not. But he does confess to anxiety. He recently started taking Paxil in addition to his AP medication. So far, what this has done is caused him to be much more talkative, which is a good thing, BUT (there is always a BUT, isn't there?) what he talks about it confusing and illogical and he announced to me couple weeks ago he was going to start drinking again! He hasn't drank alcohol, and wasn't interested in alcohol, for probably a couple years, again that's a good thing, BUT ....he did drink a lot of soda, lots and lots of it, straight out of the 2 liter bottle of Coke!! So I don't know why he started drinking beer again, seems like drinking alcohol would be self-medicating to me. In a way he seems happier. But alcohol tends to make him a bit agitated and he has no tolerance because he doesn't drink much because he has no way to get beer because he doesn't drive. But he does manage to get some if he knows somebody is coming over. I don't know the answers but do have tons of questions and usually when I research a question it opens up all these new and confusing explanations and my mind reels, and just on and on. I wish I could be at peace with this. I wish I could believe that his life as it is now is just the way it's going to be. I wonder if any of us can accept and just be.