Perfectly stated. Spot on truth. I struggle daily with the balance of my own sanity vs living life as a caregiver for an unappreciative adult child. I’m driven by love and my faith. But I get angry. Sad. Depressed.
And then I ask ‘if not me then who will care for him?’ It’s exhausting. It has hurt our family. My two other children have seen horrific things. Our relationships are strained. My wife is a ghost of her prior self. It well and truly sucks.
I’m a believer in Christ and believe the Bible to be true. James 1:2 talks about how we should consider it pure joy when we suffer in Christ. I’ve taken this as my rallying cry ‘Lord, I’m doing this because I believe I’m responsible to love and care for my adult child. And it’s causing great suffering.’
Joy seems a bit of a stretch but I do feel at peace. Also whiskey helps. 