Hi all, Thank you @jaxy, @Sandy1234 and @mbheart for telling me that you feel the same. Sometimes, each day, all I can take is one tiny step towards improvement or try to eliminate something that is a failure.
I learned that knocking on her door and offering food (a ready made plate and a glass of juice) is the best way to end psychotic raving. For some reason it pulls her out of “her” world and back into our shared reality (the normal world) better than anything else: a knock, “I have food for you”, door opens, she takes food, “I love you.” door closes, but episode lessens almost immediately. Wow, took me two years to realize how well that exact scenario works. Many days it is my only face-to-face contact with her. Yesterday, it got sooooo loud no amount of noise machines or TV speakers could drown it out before I did “the food routine”.
Yes, mbheart, it is like PTSD to care for someone who will never be well. @hope I had goosebumps down my entire body after reading your post. What a strong woman you are. I sure can agree with WTF. @oldbobrobert and mbheart and everyone who has guided your loved one onto medication that helps them have a life: I am jealous and sad that I have failed to do that for my daughter.
Thank you all for your continuing posts and support, knowing you are on this site and posting your own experiences is worth so much to me. I have brought up this site at every NAMI support group I have been to since the family to family class I took, as for some reason, no one else was recommending it at NAMI. Both of these forms of support ARE one of the right answers I found (to go back to the name of this thread).