@tired3553, I am nearly 7 months away from my sons one of many outburst of violence that in my case resulted in a hospitalization, rather than an arrest.
You just never know in those extreme moments which direction things could go, and although my son was not a violent person in his nature, there were times we were very worried for our safety, for his safety, or for what would come next. My one suggestion in this case is when there is an incident of this magnitude, you have some power or ability to request…and even highlight the significance of the event in light of a mental health diagnosis. The prosecutor is correct, but there may be a legal member of that team that is experienced in public petitions for people to be hospitalized and is well versed in schizophrenia and the necessity of involuntary hospitalizations. This person may be someone to tap into to help understand and approach this related to your son being unwilling to take medication or have treatment for his mental health. This moment is where you advocate the hardest you have so far on behalf of your son for a thorough evaluation because of what you have experienced in your home with him before now…and in this situation with his father. Tell all involved that medication/hospitalization is needed. Accept nothing less. Maybe it can become part of the order in the court…?
You may, or may not be successful, but all of this creates a necessary track record. I had been preparing for the moment you are in, as I had been close a number of times in the past. I had a daily log of my son’s behavior, his sleep habits, when he showered/didn’t, what/when he ate, etc. Ultimately it was violence, a call to the sheriff, prior to this petitioning the county attorney for him to be hospitalized, and ultimately me saying he could not return to my home. Perhaps you could recreate the history with your son? A detailed log to give to someone of other things that are relevant in this case? I was successful, but it was because of the months of documentation, ER visits, destruction of property, his behavior, and ultimately me saying I would no longer house him.
Each of our loved ones have different ways that this illness, when not medicated, manifests itself…but the moment you are in is an opportunity to display how dangerous he can be in this illness. I wouldn’t allow the prosecutor or anyone around him to define it without being in context of “because of the illness.” Read the law in your state. There is likely a part of it that says, danger to others…use the part of the law that he is a danger to others in this moment and this instance to help illustrate all aspects of how the illness is impacting your son so he can get some help.
I wish you strength and stamina in this, as that is what you need…and peace while he is not in your home. May you have a successful outcome in this all.