My daughter’s participation in a stable life has been on a steady uphill motion over the past 2 1/2 years. I wish that everyone’s loved one could see such improvement.
It is heartbreaking, this illness, especially when caregivers brush with hopelessness. I do know @rosyd what it is like when police or doctors or those we turn to for help for our loved ones tell us to turn our backs on them. It contributes to the helpless hopeless feeling that we burden our own selves with for not being able to find a remedy for the illness eating at our loved one’s sanity. It is important as a caregiver to care for ourselves too. Only we ourselves can decide in our own situations what is best. Avoiding faulty advice from others is an important ability to have. You have to be true to yourself, and decide for your own situation how to handle it.
I really appreciate your comment oldladyblue. In this experience there’s so much learning in all levels: physically, emotionally and spiritually; it’s a growing experience and our personal peace of mind is of the utmost importance to me. So there’s plenty of opinions given to us and I don’t blame relatives that give up on their loved ones, I feel that way sometimes as well; but there’s also many inspired stories of success and recovery.
As I was reading my lesson yesterday the leading brother shared an insert of C.S. Lewis:
“We can ignore even pleasure. But pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”
“The Problem With Pain”
This is for me: When we stray too far from God, He will allow painful experiences to call us back; t’s a way to refine us. Some one else said “…it makes us stronger”
We don’t give up because we have hope and we keep on trying.
I am thankful to everyone who has shared their struggles, their courage and their way to manage and cope with this uncomfortable and painful experience.