I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years, we had a relatively stable time in the fall of seeing each other once or twice a week. He has schizophrenia. Communication has been really challenging with him. I have found lately that he has gotten mad at me about small things and ignoring me for about a week or two. He also has trouble with telephone and text communication.I don’t mind phoning, but if he is mad at me he won’t answer the phone. I tend to call and call. I wish I knew how to better communicate with him when we do get the chance to talk. He won’t open up about his schizophrenia, how it affects him, or his feelings. When we are apart I feel a giant wedge between us because I don’t understand what is going through his mind. It kind of tears us apart.
I don’t know what exact advice I am seeking, but I don’t really know what communication deficits are normal with schizophrenia and how couples deal with them. Or even what to do when he ignores me. I always tell myself, just give him a few days, but I end up calling each day.