Declaring a loved one incompetent? Help!


I live in Indiana my mother has been schizophrenic since I was 13, and I’m now 26. I want to try and have her admitted to a state hospital. She’s already been evaluated and been on meds which she now refuses to take. She’s homeless and I rarely see her. Does anyone have any advice?? I’m desperate, I just want my mom back in my life


Hi Drea,

Welcome to forums. I think you’ll find a lot of helpful people here. Sadly, the problem you’re having is quite common. WE have a few sections in our FAQ that may be helpful:

Also - I recommend you review our Mental First Aid section:

Its a very difficult situation - don’t give up, keep trying to get your mother help.


Welcome @Drea

Have you talked to any mental health agencies in your area?

The Indiana Council of Community Mental Health Centers (ICCMHC)

NAMI Indiana

Mental Health America of Indiana


I called the state hospital which is located right in my town and they do not take people unless they are referred from a certain behavioral hospital that’s in my city as well. She’s homeless so I have a hard time locating her. My aunt told me that she has been somewhere already and was evaluated and put on medication, but ig she decided she didn’t want to take it anymore and left. I have tried to find out which facility that was but they will not tell me anything bc I’m not her guardian. At this point I have no idea what to do, I was told a lawyer is my next and only option


Privacy laws can certainly get in the way of a loved one trying to help. Do you know if she is currently at risk of hurting herself or someone else? As an adult if she is not at risk then she does have the right to make the decision to be off medications and even to live on the streets. Not ideal I know.

I know that you have limited contact with her however perhaps by using LEAP when you do see her you can start to build a relationship where she may be willing to accept going back on medications or other forms of treatment. - under resources are free videos on using LEAP
LEAP is a way of communicating to build trust. Listen-Empathize-Agree-Partner. - Dr. Xavier Amador is a clinical psychologist whose brother had schizophrenia. He is the founder of the LEAP Institute. Wrote the book: I’m Not Sick I Don’t Need Help! Can buy from his website.
Search Xavier Amador and LEAP on and you should find some long videos


Someone put her name on the internet and said that she stabbed them, however I do not know if this is true. When I was a kid and she first developed the disorder she was very violent towards me and others. She’s been accused of stalking an individual and was banned from the city bus station bc of it. The only harm she causes herself is she pulls out her hair. The only thing I can think to do is go look up her arrest record and see if I can prove she’s harmful to others. I will definitely read about the LEAP system and implement it when I see her, I appreciate the feedback very much. I’m very concerned about somebody seeking her out to do harm to her


Hi Drea~~
If you could get any info. about her doctors records-who presribed them--You might find something there. I dont know if the police could do anything. Does your area have a mental crisis unit? I know this sounds awful, but if you locate her-maybe have the police pick her up and take her to the ER, and from there they can evaluate and possibly have her commited there for a few weeks. Also good if you could call police ahaead of time to update them on her situation–and then go with them all the way to the hospital. The people there would be glad to get any info on your mom.
Good luck-hope you find her