My husband has no emotion which I read is normal. But will this ever stop? Will he ever have feelings again? When he says something mean, I say “well that is so mean or rude”. He says “no, I am not being mean” “you are taking it wrong”. i will say, “with what you said, it can only be taken ONE way”. So he says things no knowing how rude they are. I will ask does he want me to stay and talk to him or watch a movie. He will say NOT REALLY. I might be taking it wrong. Anyway, I overlook him. But what he does to others makes me feel for them. For instance:
His grandfathers birthday was My 2nd. I got a call from his mom to remind me to wish him well. I did. This is the grandfather that helped raise him and they have always been very close. I did my part and went to my husband with the phone and whispered, tell your grandfather happy birthday. My husband said no. I not going to do that. I gave my husband an evil look and said this man hasn’t done anything to you and has dementia, won’t be here much longer on earth…it won’t hurt you. He said no, then i put the phone to his ear and said just do it. So my husband said happy birthday. That is it. I had to talk the rest of the time.
ON this weekend, Mothers Day, my husband got mad at me for begging him to call and wish his mom a Happy Mothers Day. He said “just leave me alone”. And I did after 5 min. I called his mother and wished her Happy Mothers Day and apologized for her sick son. I told my husband he is going to hurt his moms feelings. He didn’t care. I know his mom, i am sure she cried. Why is he doing this? Does he mean to be so cold and care free not caring how others feel?
I shouldn’t have to beg him to call his mother on Mothers Day. I told him, so you will call her to say thanks for sending me $100 for my bday but if she not giving you something you can’ t call? he didn’t respond to that. I feel for all that he treats this way, even myself lol. He does me this way too but I can deal with it. These other people are his family and have done SOOOO much for him and he don’t care to talk to them.