For parents with both MI and not MI adult children, how do you balance the relationship between them? My husband recently expressed to his parents that while he understands that 99% of their time will be dedicated to his sister, he wishes occasionally they would also spend time with him. His brother has had the same conversation with their parents.
I think they both struggle because their parents will arrange for someone to stay with their sister when they go on vacation or golfing or to play tennis, etc. but won’t do it for big events related to them (their wedding, baby shower, big award ceremony, things of that nature that happen only once). And even when events can be modified to try to make her more comfortable, sister’s illness often just makes it impossible to be around other people. Their parents are getting older and both brothers are really wanting to spend more time with them, but even going to their home doesn’t seem to work. Unfortunately the situation will likely only get harder once our child is born (as explained in my other post) because we won’t be able to go to them as easily or as often.
Any advice on how to improve this interaction? We’ve offered to cover the cost of in-home care for the day or make arrangements for a family member to stay with sister.