Hi, I’m new to this forum and I hope this post is in the correct category, but here goes -
tl;dr – my friend has become delusional (schizophrenic?) after rejection, what do we do?
BACKSTORY (cut very short, some details faked):
My friend Amy (f/24) has been dating friend Ben (m/23) for a couple of years. Ben’s best friend Chris (m/24) developed feelings for Amy. Amy rejected him softly, but fast forward 1 year, Amy has lingering feelings for Chris. Amy is also depressed because she thinks she tore Ben and Chris apart. Ben and Amy split, but Chris is already in a different relationship. Amy knows she can’t be with Chris anymore but still wants to keep in contact. Chris rejects Amy in a harsh way, and Amy is crushed because she had trusted Chris. She breaks down and has suicidal thoughts, but her friends support her and she seemed to be getting over it.
SYMPTOMS A couple of days later, however, she starts saying weird stuff (she is not taking drugs):
“I am thankful to everyone, my parents, all the singer songwriters and artists”
“I haven’t slept for 2 days straight, music is a drug”
“Some higher power is at work making [Chris and I] complement each other”
“I’ve won, I love the world, all I had to do was accept that I’m insane, I’m so high right now and I’m so happy“
“Chris triggered a PTSD in me. I spiritually and mentally died. Old me is not here anymore.”
According to her there are 12 souls (her close friends) connected through music, and she needs to save them
She thinks she’s unlocked the universe and she has reached enlightenment - if we disagree it’s just that we haven’t reached that point
Chris is her twin?soulmate? And they belong together, they are the same beings, twin flames
Chris is the ocean and she is the water
She doesn’t eat at all and is losing weight (49kg / 168cm as of early Feb), doesn’t exercise
This has been going on for a month
Basically she is weird… like very weird. She seems to have gone through some transformation after deep introspection (she is a serious, serious thinker) and now has a spiritual/delusional take on the world. As much as I’d want to believe this is her way of getting over her shock, it makes me very worried when she says things like “me and Chris are going to be one forever / we have telepathy ”, and that Chris has already broken up with her girlfriend (all of which I have confirmed with Chris that is not true). She has also been trying to drag her best friend into her beliefs and I find that disturbing. She doesn’t respond when we ask more about her beliefs / her situation with Chris, so we don’t know how to approach this (we are all out of country and there is nobody around her who we can trust).
She currently lives with her parents. She doesn’t have a job. All she does these days is make playlists on Spotify.
Regarding her PTSD – she has a history of being abandoned by mean friends during high school, and we think that’s what she is referring to.
Given all of that I have a couple of questions:
- Is this, in any way, a transition that can result in something healthy? I know this sounds off but have there been accounts of this kind of behavior leading to a better recovery?
- Is this considered schizophrenic / psychotically delusional? I’ve read that it could get better in a month or can develop into something even worse (so not really an answer), but is there any medication that can help?
- What is the best course of action here? We may be able to meet her in person in a month’s time, but until then, should we be aiming to do something, or leave her alone without confronting it?
- We want her to see a psychiatrist but we don’t know if she’ll accept it, what are some other non-offensive remedies that she might allow?
And please don’t judge her dating choices, it’s unrelated to the subject…
[EDIT] I forgot to mention that Amy has always been a grounded person who bases most of her beliefs and thoughts on scientifically backed claims, and she’s never based her thoughts on spiritual things. We’ve known her for 10+ years and this kind of thing has never happened.