My brother goes through phases, where sometimes he can take care of things (like getting food stamps, help from a shelter, etc), and other times where he can barely do anything for himself.
My hardest thing is, how to tell him that he can’t live here. He wants to know why. In the past, I’ve told him that I can’t have my family around all of the stuff he’s dealing with (his delusions & hearing voices, etc).
I have many friends in CA that have tried to help my brother, but he typically becomes suspicious of them, convinced they’re part of the conspiracy theory, and flees.
Like you with your husband, I just want my brother to be OK. Thanks again-
My brother’s employer tried a similar approach. It ultimately didn’t work, and he’s been without work for at least 4 years or so. He definitely needs constant supervision.
A long time ago, when I was contemplating moving out for the first time (as a teenager) my father told me that when I moved out, I could never ask to move back in. I could stay as long as I wanted, but once I moved out the first time, I could never come back to live with him. He never explained why. I left home at 17 when I joined the Air Force, and I never lived with a relative of mine again.
This seems to be a case where you simply HAVE to just put your foot down and say no. You don’t OWE him an explanation. Nor do you OWE him help that will possibly endanger yourself or your family.
I was very lucky with the way things turned out with my daughter. It was a blessing for her psychosis to end. Thank you for your good wishes. I hope things work out for your brother. He has to find his own way.
I wouldn’t unless your brother gets tx and is med compliant. And Sooner or later your place will become unsafe to him. When my son starts sleeping in different rooms, outside, i know in his mind it is unsafe for him. So sad.