Seeking advice about a friend's behavior

Hi everyone,

I’m reaching out because I’m concerned about a close friend of mine. Over the past few months, he has been sharing some beliefs and behaviors that are new to me and quite challenging to navigate. He claims to be an archangel and is convinced that aliens are going to show up any day now to pick him up. Whenever someone questions or disagrees with his beliefs, he gets really angry and defensive. It’s become difficult to have any differing opinions or discussions around him without triggering a strong reaction.

Additionally, he seems to believe that everyone is out to get him, which has made it hard for him to trust others. I’m genuinely trying to be supportive and understanding, but it’s becoming exhausting to be around him constantly. I want to help him, but I’m not sure how to do so effectively without making him feel alienated or unsupported.

I’m starting to wonder if these behaviors could be signs of a mental health issue, such as schizophrenia, or if it could be something else. This is all very new to me, and I don’t have much experience with these kinds of situations.

If anyone has any advice on how to approach this situation, or if you’ve had similar experiences, I would really appreciate your input. I’m looking for ways to be there for my friend while also taking care of my own well-being.

Thanks in advance for any advice or insights you can provide.

If the person has anosognosia, meaning they do not believe they are delusional, then read I Am Not Sick, I Don’t Need Help! How to Help Someone Accept Treatment. It sounds like this is the situation.

If, and when, they become aware of their delusions and want to accept treatment, then help them find a psychiatrist. That person would be able to prescribe meds that would help them. If money is a problem, because many psychiatrists do not take insurance, or the person does not have health insurance, then reach out to whatever social services organizations exist in your area. Your local chapter of NAMI may be able to help.

Welcome to the forums. Sorry you are here under the circumstances.

It sounds like they are experiencing delusions. Yes it can be very exhausting for you as well. It is good they have you. A delusion is a fixed belief which is false.

I suggest watching the YouTube video below. It will help you learn how to speak to your loved one.

https://youtu.be/iEkEtZvctKc?si=ZbPpiN0z7jeWCu7U

Dr Xavier Amador also has YouTube videos. Search using his name. He is the author of the book suggested by Caregiver1. It is a great book.

Feel free to ask questions.

Take Care