Have you any idea what has caused your son’s mental illness? I know that sexual abuse from my parents and brother caused my sister’s and mine as well (I’ve depression and CPTSD).
Perhaps if you addressed the cause he’d heal. I know some people prefer the comfort of dealing with the schizophrenia instead of dealing with the horror that lurks behind its cause. It’s easier. In the meantime medication can dull the pain until the person is ready to face head on the reason for their pain.
My antidepressants helped me when I was forced to live back home with my parents, the people who abused me sexually, who have never admitted it. I was doing okay, working from home then my sister fell ill with schizophrenia saying the same things about the abuse.
I’ve not only had to deal with my own things, but the burden of her has been dumped on me and my other sister. IT’s all about her. My parents are bad bastards. But because they’re respectable and religous no one says anything. I can’t go to the police because there’s no evidence.
THey prefer that she take her anger out on me because it saves her taking it out on them. Her anger is misplaced. They have caused her schizophrenia by molesting her when she was a baby (they did it to me too). She had an extra ingrediant in that I think she had a sexual relationship with my brother in their early teens. She exaggerates so it’s hard to know the truth.
Perhaps if you can get your son to talk about what happened to him. Indeed though, if you or someone else close to you who you can’t accept has caused his illness, then at the very least you should let him talk to someone else in order to vent it. Apologies if I’m wrong.
Schizophrenia is an illness that is still very badly understood. The symptoms are understood, but that doesn’t matter. The cause needs to be addressed. And people who are victims of incest and sexual abuse, usually from a primary caregiver, develop this illness as it makes them go crazy. It’s completley the fault of the person who did it to them. Completely their fault. And if they’ve any remore in them, they owe it to the victim to let them get counselling about what’s really bothering them instead of going on about schizophrenia as if that’s the whole issue. It’s not. And the sooner families realise that sexually abusing your own kids has severe consequences, the sooner that schizophrenia will die out in in the world.
And if there’s anyone who is currently suffering from schizophrenia right now, know this: It’s not your fault. Open up SLOWLY about what has happened to you. Keep taking your meds as they help you deal with the strong emotions that sexual violence from a mother or father can create, and slowly but surely let it out of you. You DON’T have to spend your life with this label on you. They don’t even know fully what it means. Exasperated psychiatrists came up with the word, “schizophrenia” because they couldn’t understand some people’s illness and they didnt want to admit to themselves about the prevalence of mothers and fathers sexually abusing their own children.
Take courage, and if you’re currently in the care of your abuser, I urge you to seek out an online forum about sexual abuse. I had to live with my abusers and was on antidpressants which helped. But it was a living hell. You don’t have to let the people who abused you get away with it. You don’t have to pretend to be sick to make them feel better for something bad that they’ve done to you. You also don’t have to punish them or lash out. Find a physical outlet for your pent up energy. When someone who we’ve had to live with for years, such as a parent, sexually abuses you, the pent up energy you have to hide away becomes immense. I pray for every schizophrenic who is reading this that yo’ll get better and heal because you didn’t deserve what happened to you. Amen.