I just signed up for this site, I was looking for some support because the situation with my sister has me really upset and I wanted to talk to other people who are going through similar situations with loved ones. My sister is 39, and hasn’t officially been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, but she was hospitalized recently and they said that there has to be a longer period of her symptoms for her to be diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia (they diagnosed her with psychosis nos). I’m not really close to my sister, but I care very much for her and she is a part of my life. I have a pretty busy life with 3 kids, my youngest is 2, and I’m in school full time. I have depression myself and my husband is depressed and was recently suicidal, so times have been difficult. I’ve done what I can for my sister but last night was so difficult.
She started getting bad after she got fired (which was due to her symptoms) in December. She thought that her coworkers were conspiring against her, then she thought they were getting into her car, then she thought that they were watching her at home, it got progressively worse. Then she thought that they were getting into her apartment and changing things around. She was withdrawing more and more and stopped talking to her friends and stopped coming over to see me, but was in denial of any problem with herself. It started getting to the point where she thought that her ex-boyfriend (who she still lives with) was an imposter who was made to look like him but wasn’t actually him. Then everyone else was an imposter, nobody was who they said they were. She said her house was bugged, her phone was hacked, her facebook was hacked, the neighbors were spying on her and talking about her (she said she can hear them through the walls but her ex said he doesn’t hear them) etc. I signed her up for medicaid but she was convinced it was a scam. I tried to get her an appointment for mental health services but she refused to go. She still takes care of herself so to speak, I mean she eats and isn’t doing anything dangerous to herself or others, so getting her committed is very difficult. The police did get involved because she called the police stating that her ex was an imposter and she wanted him to leave and he wouldn’t. After a while of this happening it finally got the point where she was in the hospital but they were only able to keep her for 6 days. I spoke with the people at the hospital but they said there wasn’t enough to go off of to get her committed.
I guess I just feel so helpless and sad. I feel like I’ve lost my sister. She won’t take medication, she won’t admit she has a problem, she thinks I’m some kind of imposter. Last night she came over and asked for money, and we got into a very long intense conversation and it was emotionally wretching for me (I’m a pretty sensitive person). She wanted to know what I did with her sister, I tried to assure her that I was who I said I was but nothing I said convinced her and she started crying and saying I was an imposter and wanted to know where her sister is. Then she said her nephews and niece are imposters too. This is the first time she missed my son’s birthday party last month and it was so hard to tell my son that my sister is sick, and it’s the kind of sick that lasts a long time. She wouldn’t even come into my house, she stayed in the car with sunglasses on and wouldn’t look at me. It’s so hard, my sister was so different before this all started. She was outgoing, had a lot of friends, was always busy doing things and keeping active. Now she’s a completely different person and there is nothing I can do to get her back. I’ve tried everything that I can think of. I guess I wanted to talk to others to get advice/support and feedback, as I feel so very down and depressed about this and don’t really have anyone to talk to. Thank you for reading this if you made it this far.