My sister is 66. Diagnosed with schizophrenia in her early twenties right before she should have graduated college. Years and years and years of this. She has been living in assisted living facilities the last 15 years or so. You cannot find a facility in San Antonio that understands what schizophrenia is. As she gets older she also has medical conditions now like kidney disease, diabetes, and falling breaking her hip a few years ago. There have been numerous problems with almost all of the facilities she has lived in. I have reported some of these facilities to Adult Protective Services. The same investigator investigates each time and does nothing. At one place when my sister fell and broke her hip the lady that owned the place waited 2 hours to take my sister to the hospital in the lady’s own personal car. Investigator found nothing wrong. My sister is in another place now. An RN owns and runs the place. She purposefully stopped giving my sister her medication for hallucinations for 5 months and lied to me about it. She did not tell me when my sister had to be hospitalized for her blood sugar being way off. I found out when the ambulance bill arrived in my mail. On April 10th a social worker from a hospice called me and informed me this RN had my sister placed on hospice back in March. My sister’s kidney doctor that she has seen for years said my sister is stage 3 and he puts people on hospice at Stage 5. This RN found a different doctor to put my sister on hospice and my sister’s kidney doctor did not know until I told him. Over the past few years anytime I brought up concerns with this RN about my sister’s care Etc she was having my sister call me and tell me not to call about things. I have a recorded voicemail on my phone from my sister and she’s saying please don’t call about things and my sister States the RN is chewing her out when I try to find anything out. I wrote some negative reviews online and I received a certified letter from an attorney telling me if I said anything else to anyone about her assisted living facility or her care of my sister that I would be taken to court. This RN told me she would get my house and my bank account. I was my sister’s medical power of attorney beginning in 2009. This RN took my sister to an ombudsman’s office and talked my sister into signing papers ending my medical power of attorney 2 years ago. The RN is threatening to take me, other residents family members, and the websites that the negative reviews were posted on to court. I am going to report her to the Federal Trade Commission. They protect the rights of people that write negative reviews and can penalize companies trying to shut people up that write negative reviews.
I just want to give up. I’ve been trying to talk my sister into moving out for a few years now. She doesn’t like change and has been refusing. This RN turning my sister against me is a nightmare. I myself was diagnosed with end-stage liver disease and portal hypertension in 2011. I’m checked every 6 months for liver cancer and I’m remaining stable on medication. I’m still able to work but I’m exhausted all the time. Add to that everything going on with my sister and the rest of the family not wanting anything to do with her except for my daughter who helps out, and I feel like I’m drowning. I feel like I’m right below the surface of the water and no matter how hard I try I cannot make it above water to breathe. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve been blocked out of my sister’s life. This RN told my sister that I’m ruining my sister’s life. I also have that voice message recorded on my phone from when my sister called me and the RN is telling my sister this in the background.
I am stuck in fight or flight all the time, every minute of every day, everyday of every week. I know if she was well that my sister would do all of this for me. I think. I need prayer. Lots of it. I need God’s favor involving all of this. Thank you.