My dad has had paranoid schizophrenia my whole life but was diagnosed only 6 years ago. Looking back at my childhood, I can see that he wasn’t well. Even though I’ve lived with him my whole life, we’ve never had much of an emotional connection. These days, when we do communicate, there is a lot of yelling. Thankfully, we do get along sometimes.
It’s sad to see him go through this. He doesn’t have friends and can’t keep a relationship because he is controlling and thinks the other person is cheating. He gets out almost every day, but when he is at home, he just lays in bed all day. He has recently stopped cleaning as much as he used to, so it’s all up to me. He believes that if you spend time with friends and family “you need strength from them” and “he doesn’t need that”. He also has a hard time living in apartments, and refuses to live upstairs because he “has to be near the door”. He wants to move to an area that might be bad, and I really don’t want to. We’re always moving, and I like where we are now, but he says he can’t deal with it, because “this area is closing in on him”. I wish that I could live on my own, but I can’t at the moment.
I know I need to be more supportive of him, and I am going to work on not arguing and just listening to his delusions instead of trying to tell him they aren’t true. What other ways can I be supportive of him?