@thereisalwayshope i guess i’m still new in my recovery. Learning the ropes. I do talk to my parents daily. I call them. Just to touch base. (or they call me) We don’t live together and haven’t for over 20 yrs. I am very independent. I like living on my own. I do like to visit them about once a week. Just to sit and talk. Or they visit me.
My younger brother. He is a “tough” guy. But. I hurt him soo deeply when i was ill. I actually heard him cry once. (just once) …i never forgot. And same with my sister. I once watched her…run out of the house…to the garage. and just…sob. Cry. like a broken hearted child.
When both of them. just broke. (Back then, I didn’t understand why) I didn’t get it. It was a shock. My family isn’t a “cry baby” family. We just aren’t. We are VERY affectionate though. Hugs and “i love you” all the time.
So, something in me. …was, “aware” that something was wrong. So, I didn’t understand. BUT. i knew by their emotional pain. That something wasn’t right.
During that time. My brother was (and is) married with 4 kids. (he was terrified i’d hurt his children) So i was NEVER allowed to be alone with them. I still played with them. BUT. I was always chaperoned. I didn’t understand. I just thought. He hated me.
I didn’t UNDERSTAND. then. Just how ill i was. My brother knew. He was soooo busy juggling his family and children. (and his jobs) He was a Military Intelligence Officer. (and he also…worked for NASA)
My sister. (who i was closest to) played mediator…between my family and me. At that time. She worked for a Biotech Company. (that made the Invega shot) She learned of that drug. She made some waves. Made calls. And got me approved for that Drug. It saved my life. (and my sanity)
I owe much of my healing to my family.
I am FINALLY healed enough. I want to make their lives…BETTER. I don 't want to hurt them…or trigger memories of when i was very ill. I really just …want to know…what i can do now…to make amends. I want to make my family PROUD of me. I haven’t …done much yet…to earn that. I really want to.
So…that’s …where the root of this question has come from!!!
I just want to know…what helps the family!!! (the caregivers)