I know I’m in the minority here, but I firmly believe that friends and family should know about your afflicted loved one. Otherwise, for example, they will think you are avoiding them because you’re a snob or that something fishy is going on and you don’t care enough about their interest in what is going on in your life to give a true answer when they ask you why you and your loved one aren’t coming to their parties or functions or why you call in sick. I can understand why some people would not want to mention their loved one’s illness, but if we all keep quiet about it, nothing will change.
I have told everyone including my family, friends and people at work (bosses, managers) and over the past nine years, I have only received sympathy and understanding. (Most think I should leave him, but that’s a different issue altogether.) After I tell them, now they know when I’ve been up all night with my husband ranting and raving, not letting me get any sleep. They know I may suddenly cancel plans because my husband is having a crisis. They will know I am not able to travel to visit because I have spent the last of my money paying for my husband’s traffic tickets, overdraft fees and oh so expensive cigarettes. It’s not pretty, for sure, but it helps them to understand that I am caring for someone who is ill and that is why things might not always proceed according to plan.
If I were you, I wouldn’t post about your son right away, after his friend has just been diagnosed with diabetes, but I hope you do consider sharing with at least your closest friends. You know them best, though. This is just my two cents. I believe if more people were aware of the issues with the afflicted, they might be kinder to not only them but also to the caregivers. We can always hope!