Glad you made some headway with her. Its a labor of love to withstand all these events. Hang in there!
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These phases could last for months. It would then always end up with a forced hospitalization by the doctors. Its been years and years of this. Over and over again. My life has been destroyed by them.
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Our situation is very similar, i have been quietly taking on all the responsibilities of the household (chores, bills, etc.) plus working long hours 5 days a week. My husband and i have been married for 25 years but together this winter for 30 years and he has struggled with major depression and PTSD all of his life only in the past 10 years his symptoms were getting worse after his breakdown from his last longterm job. These last 2 years after our beloved dog passed away it escalated and now just before our 25th anniversary he became a completely different person, his paranoia and outbursts were always directed at other people and situations. It is definitely hurtful and heartbreaking when it turns on you, i have been accused of trying yo kill/poison him, being an evil manipulative person, that i am always lying and that i have destroyed everyone’s life who is around me. It hurt me so much that i tried ending my own life which sent me to the hospital and haven’t been back home since because he said that as long as i am a threat to him and the pets he does not want me there, so i was at the crisis center for a week then i came to stay at my parents house in another province until i get possession of my apartment in May. But at the beginning of the week he said i could come back home because i sound better now and was making sure i was not going to be an issue (he still believes i am the mentally ill/unstable one, he sort of drove me to it) and now currently he says that he would sign over the house to me and move on to go live in the city with his brother or dad. Just like that, it changes from one thing to another, he is very cold and says that technically our marriage is annulled because of what i did to him (i asked him if we were still married or what). I also gave him time without pressure to get better (many years). At first his brother and dad seemed to be allies for me but now i think he has convinced them that i was this evil, manipulative person who held him captive and controlled him (i am the furthest thing from any of these, if anything people tell me i am too kind). Plus i am still taking care of all the bills, mortgage, and transferring 800.00 into his account every two weeks despite having just recently losing my job of 26 years. He always makes sure and stresses that i do this (believes i owe him for what i have done to him)
I am truly sorry for your situation, i understand how hard it is to love and support them when they are against you. I am still so new to this situation and it is extremely confusing because every now and then i begin to doubt my own sanity. I am so glad i found this forum because it has helped me immensely on keeping myself grounded and the support and advice from everyone here is amazing! God bless you all for caring and sharing so much