I have been thinking and overthinking this issue a lot, as well as reading all the literature I could find. Unfortunately, I am not able to get professional consultation though.
My boyfriend’s aunt has schizophrenia. They say that she is the only case in the family. I hope they are right, although it might be absolutely possible that they do not know some older family history, for example.
The issue I am most worried about is what are the risks for our kids if we have any some day. I know the figures which are most often cited on this website and elsewhere. I would like to ask about your experience.
Our relationship with my boyfriend have had a few major bumps, and I still have some doubts about him. But it has become much better during the last year. Since I don’t have much experience with the disease, I am terrified of it. I do understand that it is not the end of the world, people manage to live quite full lives with it. But they struggle, and it is hard. I know I don’t want my kids to struggle that much. It might sound cynical that I am thinking about whether I should be in a relationship because of the desiase his aunt has, but this issue does not let me be totally happy. If I didn’t truly love him, our relationship wouldn’t have survived through all the rough things that we have gone through. (By the way, I am sure that he is sane.) I am just torn between what I feel and what is rational to do.
So my question to you is: do you have experience of having truly only one case of schizophrenia in the family, when no generations that come before or after the one with the disease do not have it. I guess, I want to get convinced that the statistics is right.
I am truly terrified of looking at my child and thinking that he or she would get crazy some day.