Anyone have to deal with a willful selfish adult child who won’t clean up after themselves at all and smokes 1ppd in bedroom despite my objections ?
If he wasn’t my son I would kick him out 3 years ago but I feel stuck w him until I can get SS income for him
His little bit of money earned from a hobby goes to pot ( “his medicine”) and beer.
Needless to say I feel abused used and wonder where is my solution ?
Even when he is more congenial he still is a selfish person ignoring my repeated requests for him to smoke outside and clean up after self.
I just think he has a bad conduct issue in addition to SA. His excuse is “ your harassing me and I am crazy”
I have basically retreated because approaching him in a kind manner doesn’t work nor an authoritarian manner
He is on probation for some misbehavior that occurred when he was actively psychotic.
I end up having to drive him to those probation appointments when I am tired after working night shift.
I am almost 69 and strong.
But I think I will not Live with you the rest of my life.
I live in a nice rental and plan on buying a home in a year and think maybe a mobile home for him elsewhere.
I think he was better behaved 3 years ago than now because it’s his one source of power in our relationship.
I have 3 other adult kids who don’t visit anymore because of his behavior.
Anyway God bless you all and I appreciate your kindness.