I have read on that too , we are actually from London but moved to Florida 8 years ago and this whole nightmare started about 2 1/2 years ago . I wish there was more help here like London but at least we have NAMI to help
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@Linda - It sounds like my son, however, he now goes to work. from 10 pm to 8 am or sometimes 12 am to 11 am. Before we figured out what was wrong with him, he had flip flopped his days and nights and was up all night (less stress). After he got stable on meds he has a job stocking at a local grocery store. Seems to work even though heās working 6 days a week. There is nothing I can say or do to make him do things he doesnāt want to do. He also plays X-box (at 29). His room is a disaster and Iām lucky if I can get him to put the dishes in the dishwasher. He showers once a week and does his laundry when needed. Sighā¦Iāve pretty much given in to - itās his life and if this is how he lives it so be it. How old is your son? Do you think he may be still hallucinating? i ask due to the short trips to the store.
Hey Diane , my son will be 22 years in January . I believe that he feel secure , safe and no stress in his home and thats the reason for short trips outside as i think he gets stressed out . I am happy to hear that your son is working , i think thats great . Does he live with you ?
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so sorry - very scary to find heroin.
@Linda He does live with me. Heāll be moving out come spring. He wanted to get his court stuff taken care of. He was speeding (Iām sure running from someone) and got a ticket and then was a no show as he was in such deep psychosis. Fortunately, his father stood in for him and between us and the judge we finally managed to get him on meds and currently stable. He may go off his shot in the future, which I have super mixed feelings about. I just canāt go through all that again.
Well i wish him well and if he ever considers to not take his shot than bribing him with money may help , i have a friend who gives her son $100 every month after his shot for pocket money and it works lol lets think positive and take one day at a time : )
Thatās a good idea, however, I think he has at least 20K saved up! He works a lot. Iāll try to think of other things to use as a bribe : ) I think I will just say if you donāt get the shot itās possible youāll get in trouble with the cops again! Next one is end of Jan. Itās every 3 months.
Oh wow , guess not money . Yes find a bribe that would work !
Yeah - pretty amazing. Iām hopeful that he will truly move out as I may be moving to FL - do you like living there? My BF is in Clearwater and looking a homes in that area.
Well Iām originally from London but moved to Boca Raton about 7 years ago as i got married here , i do love it here but i miss my family terribly and this whole crisis with my son started in Florida so i have a little bitter taste if you know what i mean . I had a normal child then moved to florida when he was 15 and 4 years later " bang " a not normal son ā¦ it eats me away ā¦ but i try to deal with everything i can day by day . i have never been to Clearwater But Florida is gorgeous , beautiful weather , stunning greenery and so organised like i love .
I hear ya! Iām going on 8 years of odd behavior. 2 of which were on meds. Itās a lot to swallow for sure. Iāve been struggling with it quite a bit. We had such high hopes. Now Iām like working at a grocery store - awesome! Iāve been going back and forth to FL from CO this year quite a bit and love the beach part and all the birds. Hang in there - as we all do - together on our forum, with this disease. Have a nice weekend!
I will be hitting my 3rd year this March , Will try and hang in there thanks. Have a great weekend too : )
Oh my God! I have almost the same issue with my 25 year old son. He lives with us though. He sleeps all day and is up all night strumming on his guitar or playing his video games too. His room is a mess. I try not to do everything for him but itās hard to live with it. He has no friends other than the ones in his head. (Who he talks to all the timeā¦) I canāt image if he lived in his own place. We have to lock up his meds and take him to his monthly doctors appointments. He has no job. The only advise is to be there for him so he doesnāt think heās alone or no one cares. Itās too easy for my son to get sucked into the voices in his head. Itās unbelievable to know there is so many people in the same boat I amā¦
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Hi Linda - Me again. Do you know for sure your son is taking his meds? I think you may have said in an earlier post that you watch him take them? What is he taking? I was just wondering because he thinks you are poisoning him. Thatās one of the sz syptoms. My son thought I was poisoning him (with food) for several years. I can also see how he would consider the meds poison as they arenāt that great for a person.
Hey , its great he lives with you and you get on well . My son doesnt talk to voices but giggles and smiles most days when i see him . He has now switched his routine back to normal thank gd , donāt know how long that will last but heās getting up early , only leaving his apartment to buy food or come to see me for very short periods of time . I helped him clean his disgusting apartment with a bribe so all in all a good week but im still taking it day by day . I can not live with him as he gets agitated often and rages . He has Schizoaffective disorder, food disorder and either a delusion or body dysmorphia . He decides each day what he is or isnāt allowed to eat so his muscles wonāt shrink .
Hey Diane , yes i feel he is taking his meds as last year i know he stopped for a few days and he declined quickly . He doesnt think i am poisoning him , you may have mixed me with someone else but he definitely has a food disorder believing if he eats certain foods it may shrink his muscles and he is distraught about it so i let him decide what is good to eat every day and i give him money to buy it or i will make it for him . His psychiatrist says it may be a delusion or he may have body dysmorphia . He will drink a certain brand of bottle water and not touch any other brands .He will eat tuna one day and say heās not allowed it another day. I deal with this every day with him so Iāve learned to let him decide what he thinks heās allowed or not allowed to eat . Bizarre i know but bizarre is this disease . Thank Gd for some miracle he doesnt complain about his meds . I think the meds take the edge off his symptoms but doesnt fix all his problems if you know what i mean
My son isolates himself at my house but he likes to take rides to get food, see a movie or even take a walk or go to park. I know my son does not to leave for long but does like rides in car with radio on. At least it would be getting your son out if you do something he likes. Hope this helps.
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Trust me i have tried but all i get is āā No mum āā but i will never give up and will carry on trying .
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Isolated sonā¦ I donāt feel right when my son is out without me or his dad. He has to have someone with him all the time. He doesnāt have any friends anymore. He loves us and trusts us. My biggest thing is not to leave him alone.
I am a Police Officer and last week I was called to a suicide. A 25 yr old male shot himself in the head after his parents were after him to get out of his room and get a job. They didnāt even hear the gun shot. I believe he got tired of hearing them bitch and decided he was done. They said he had talked about killing himself in the last week or so. Why donāt people believe others when they say that?
Please donāt stop helping others. Always be there no matter whatā¦
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That is so heartbreaking : (