My son 25 on ( pailperidone depot ) he has no insight into his condition, expressed interest in going to a local college open day about marine courses on saturday. (he has a business studies degree)
Anyway he wanted to go to this, with a view to getting away and leaving the area, in his words to get away from mental health services. Ok so hubby went along with him, sat 2pm. Then he dropped off son at local football (soccer) match, they were texting during match as hubby at home wanted to know scores, and he was texting about another teams scores.
We really expected him home around the 5.30pm-6pm time.
No, all evening passed, never answered phone, texts etc, turned into night time, no sign of him.
I woke in the night several times expecting him to roll in at midnight or 2am or later.
Morning came and nothing. I tried several times to ring, text, no answer.
A police car pulled up outside our house, both my husband and I waited on the knock at the door, it was for a neighbour fortunately, but My thoughts were it was for him. (never been in trouble with police ever ) they only have been in our lives since the resisting of him going to hospital.
I finally made contact about 4pm with him, asked him where he was, he said he wasnt telling me that right now but he would be home in a few hours.
He rang (all on his terms) at 6pm asking if i could pick him up from somewhere about 2 miles away from our house, I was mad and said not a chance ! he made his way home.
He was not drunk looking , still quite tidy with hair still looking nice, clothes nice etc.
He was heavy breathing a bit and coughing, and pacing and kept saying aha out loud as he paced the floor, he looked quite distressed and quite flushed and kept saying that he was worried.
He said he had met guys went back and played on the nintendo and drank alcohol, random guys to random house, he didnt know, he has done a few things late like this, meeting up with strangers, etc
He said something to hubby he was worried about his bank, they logged in to online banking and son had made about 5 withdrawals from atm that night all for £100 each time (120 ish usd)
He said it was to buy alcohol and thats all he was saying, i asked did he keep going out the flat and using the atm then buying it, he clearly was lying and said yes,
I ask did he take any drugs (no history ever) he said no I’m not that silly.
He spends time with random strangers and yet wont give his grandparents-uncle etc his phone number despite spending christmas with them. Im in contact with them every day. They live 150 miles away.
He stank of cigarette smoke as did his clothes, he coughed all night, i mean all night, also blew his nose a lot, I worked out he had clearly been in contact with something, someone that he had a reaction to , he never had this cough the day before, it was odd.
Husband told him he had better tell him the truth today,
Im scared its come to this, in october last year he went out and stayed out for 2 nights, met a random stranger who stole his wallet and used his card and gave us so much worry and hassle as we had to change our locks as his key was in his wallet with his driver licence etc,
He also booked himself a holiday in 2015 the day before he was “sectioned” he was meant to go on it, paid 700 pounds and didnt go as he said something would happen on it, so he wasted a whole lot of money too then.
Its the lying we can’t stand, I can’t cope with a liar, I don’t know how to deal with this.
Today Im getting out the house, hubby will ring his nurse and I think we need to see a dr.
Does anyone get to a point like us and think they can’t or wont do it anymore,
He has no insight and even last night said he was silly and an idiot but he’s not ill.
Thanks for reading.