NAMI usually has a local resource book to let you know what kinds of help are available in your area - so glad you are in a large city.
How terrible for the county commissioner -not having them live with you, certainly doesn't solve the problem or remove the danger if we are their focus. Not even being able to meet for dinner is a sad reality of this illness. Public officials in high places don't have any better chances than all of us. A State Senator for Virginia, Creigh Deeds was attacked by his son with mi. The Senator had been trying to get his son into a psych bed, was turned away, took him home (court order expired?) and was attacked the next morning. The Senator lived, but his son Gus committed suicide shortly after the attack. The Senator went very public with his story trying to help people understand there is a major problem in our country and that our children should not be defined by their illnesses. They are all so much more than society sees them.
The mom who was killed from our FtF class had spoken frequently in class about her son's threats to kill them. We never did find out why the dad didn't come to the classes. I don't think it would have mattered if he had. She said he was reading all the information she was bringing home. She also spoke about the great love they had for their son, he was an only child and obviously the joy of their lives. Her eyes would shine with pride when she said his name.
She was a musician, he was an engineer. The officer who answered the October call said he first thought their bodies were Halloween decorations laying on the ground. They had both been beaten to death by a sledgehammer.
Some of us from the class attended their funeral.
I have read a lot about violence and scz. What happened to them has left my husband horribly frightened of our son. One mom, whose son was in prison, said that as the violence increased in her home, she felt like she and her husband were suspended over a chasm, unable to help themselves or him. I know I have felt that sort of numbness when our son is raging.
I have a call in to what is called here "the county mental health officer". We just have the one. Our son hasn't threatened us, and he hasn't threatened to hurt himself. He is texting me ordering us to stop abusing him, and yelling at our house wanting us to stop the abuse. He is in great distress. Then he stops and is quiet for hours. This has been going on for weeks.
Its a small percentage of the sufferers of scz who are violent, but if you have one of those in the small percentages, the percentages just don't mean much.