My boyfriend was diagnosed with schizophrenia when he was a teenager. He was hospitalised seven times during his late teens and his early-mid twenties due to hallucinations. He’s now 28 and seemed okay when I started dating him a year ago except for the fact that he’s missing one of his front teeth. He doesn’t speak much about schizophrenia but he once told me a psychatrist had said to him he was not really ill, that everything had happened just because he smoked too much marijuana as a teenager and that he was now okay.
Two months ago he started acting really stand-offish. I thought it was because he was seeing/ fancying someone else. That’s why I started to lose confidence and became extremely moody. He ended up dumping me because he said he couldn’t put up with the fights. He left me in a really cold manner, over facebook.
A few weeks ago we got back together. The first few days he was as charming as he used to be back in our first days together. Everything changed in Christmas when he got really drunk and got paranoid and into an awful fight with his brother. I got really scared because he started saying nonsense, saying that he hated everyone in his family and that noone really loved him. He actually said that it would be a good idea to set his house on fire. And he seemed to mean it.
After that day he’s as cold as he used to be right before he dumped me. He spends hours and hours painting and drawing and does nothing else. He sleeps for 10 hours everyday and then wakes up to continue painting. (he’s a really gifted artist) He only stops this activity to eat or to go to the stationer’s to buy painting materials. It’s as if he didn’t care whether I’m with him or not. He gets upset whenever I tell him to pay attention to me.
What do you think? Is he really over it? Does this mean that he’s just not that into me any longer or is he getting into a relapse? If so, how can I help if he’s not willing to take meds or go to therapy? Is there any effective way to get to him?