Im sorry to bother again- Im trying so hard to wrap my head around this .
Ive wrote before about my BF having schizophrenia paranoia diagnosis- he was facilitated - he threw the meds away after a week- and he spiraled. He is completely denying being sick (sz) his horrible delusions returned and I told him he needed to get bk on Abilify- he ended it.
Forward a year: ive seen him a few times - with hopes things were going to go back to amazing and hed be okay- WRONG. He was paranoid- said everything had to be simple - everyone at his job hates him- He still is in belief his delusion was real .
He seemed almost narcissistic after a month. It was all about him- never about what i wanted. Hed cancel dates we planned because his parents wanted him to go with them …I was kind & understanding.
Never texted or called me over Christmas. Then we planned a date - he texted me that day (i was working) and because i didnt respond immediately his next text said " im done with rhis relationship " ive attempted to call him- text him - email him explaining i was at work - he wont text me back or anything. Its been a week now.
I know i deserved to be treated better but i tried so hard to keep him happy and be understanding.
What should i expect? Will he ever come out of this phycosis spiral? I guess im stupid. I just dont understand.
I’m sorry, you are right that dealing with your expectations is your priority. You are not stupid, but those statements show that you might be having trouble understanding the nature of schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is a severe brain disorder that does not go away.
Their delusions are real to them and the illness can make them incapable of understanding they are ill with a brain disorder.
Choosing to be in a relationship with someone who has these struggles is a challenge, and it will always be a challenge.
Do what is good for you, if he is not going to stay on his meds, nothing changes…
Even if he does, it still may not change the fixed delusion. You can employ the LEAP method, provide as much support as he allows, and be extremely patient.
The big question is: What do I really want out of life (family, kids, supportive partner) and am I prepared to live without these things in order to try to be a partner to this person?