Im sorry to bother again- Im trying so hard to wrap my head around this .
Ive wrote before about my BF having schizophrenia paranoia diagnosis- he was facilitated - he threw the meds away after a week- and he spiraled. He is completely denying being sick (sz) his horrible delusions returned and I told him he needed to get bk on Abilify- he ended it.
Forward a year: ive seen him a few times - with hopes things were going to go back to amazing and hed be okay- WRONG. He was paranoid- said everything had to be simple - everyone at his job hates him- He still is in belief his delusion was real .
He seemed almost narcissistic after a month. It was all about him- never about what i wanted. Hed cancel dates we planned because his parents wanted him to go with them ā¦I was kind & understanding.
Never texted or called me over Christmas. Then we planned a date - he texted me that day (i was working) and because i didnt respond immediately his next text said " im done with rhis relationship " ive attempted to call him- text him - email him explaining i was at work - he wont text me back or anything. Its been a week now.
I know i deserved to be treated better but i tried so hard to keep him happy and be understanding.
What should i expect? Will he ever come out of this phycosis spiral? I guess im stupid. I just dont understand.
Iām sorry, you are right that dealing with your expectations is your priority. You are not stupid, but those statements show that you might be having trouble understanding the nature of schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is a severe brain disorder that does not go away.
Their delusions are real to them and the illness can make them incapable of understanding they are ill with a brain disorder.
Choosing to be in a relationship with someone who has these struggles is a challenge, and it will always be a challenge.
Do what is good for you, if he is not going to stay on his meds, nothing changesā¦
Even if he does, it still may not change the fixed delusion. You can employ the LEAP method, provide as much support as he allows, and be extremely patient.
The big question is: What do I really want out of life (family, kids, supportive partner) and am I prepared to live without these things in order to try to be a partner to this person?
Iām not sure what you want out of a relationship that will always be fraught with difficulties- schizophrenia is not curable. You didnāt cause it nor can you control it-your BF broke up with you maybe itās okay if you let the relationship go. Focus on taking care of yourself and figure out what you want in your life.
Thank you so much for the response. I am trying so hard to understand. I speak to my therapist weekly (i actually feel shes sick of hesring about it) and i read forums and ask questions ( as per i did on here) It is extremely difficult for me to grasp what HE is experiencing. His parents let him live with them like hes healthy & not needing help . They turned it all against me. They all.went through the hospitalization with me. The dad was put on Abilify while my bf was the hospital. I feel sad for my bf (or ex bf now ) because his parents (whom he trusts) are feeding to him that hes healthy & doesnāt need medication & doesnāt have schizophrenia. It makes me sad for him. I guess i dont know what to expect. This is the longest hes gone not responding to my reachjng out. Its just ALOT. I know i need to let go. 
Thank you again kindly 
Go on with your life, his sounds uncertain and you deserve better.
Thank you so much. Its still so difficult. He will randomly reach out with penial gland drawings or drawings if torture. (Delusions) He doesnāt even look the same. Constantly paranoid & still untreated.
I went through a similar on and off cycle with my ex. We would have periods where everything was good and we had a loving relationships which would transition to periods of her being very paranoid and suspicious resulting in her breaking up with me out of the blue. Like you I would then attempt to call/text only to be blocked and ignored or would be met with the most horrible insults. I thought I was strong and thought her life is better with me than without me. I thought medication and therapy would stop the delusions, but we went through the same cycle over many years. I thought i could keep her happy and get through this with patience. kindness and understanding. However, in the end I ended up with a broken heart, lost savings, lost our home and ended up needing therapy for myself.
You deserve to be treated better and you deserve a better life. Think really hard if you want this. Do you see a future with marriage and kids? Are you strong yourself to ride the waves? I thought I could, but in hindsight I made the wrong decision. If I could go back in time I would have ended my relaionship when we were dating and she texted me saying itās over.
We actually were engaged little over a year ago. But that ended too. We are not together. He will reach out once in a while but absolutely not the same . He tends to be the victim of everything and everyone at his job is against him- etc. I dont even know this man anymore. I tried. I did the work- I gave my best - but he will never be the same as he was . Hes not loving or caring. He is controled by his parents and by delusional thoughts. Its like he has no recollections of the love we shared or the wonderful few years we had together.
Im sorry this happened to you- and you stuck it out and lost SO much. Ive stuck it out way too long too.
I can 100000% relate to this. I feel my now ex is at the extreme end of the spectrum in terms of how he can not self reflect and switch off emotions. He also only speaks to his mother and step father and cut off everyone else in the family who are supporting me at the moment with trying to not have him end the relationship as I was the most stable person he has ever been around. Unfortunately I have realised he has so much shame around his illness that he can not be with me now that I know .( he never told me he had schizophrenia, Iāve only just found out via family he cut off after we met as his mother would not reply to my messages when I reached out to her 4 times saying he was acting strange and is there something I should know to not trigger him). Itās an awful , horrible feeling to have someone tell you they are the happiest they have ever been in their whole life and are living a dream with you, to then have them file an ivo against you with false claims because you went to a counsellor they decided not to attend at the last minute just in case you were going to file one on them first after seeing the counsellor !. This is where my life is now. Iāve realised Iāve just bought a house and going through fertility treatments with a person that did not tell me he was schizophrenic and not on monthly injections he is meant to be taking and now I have a lawyer and placing an ivo on him because he has completely turned into someone else. I am now the most evil untrustworthy person in his life and his way of breaking up with me was a lawyer letter telling me to get out of a house I half own within 2 weeks. Itās horrible to see someoneās personality completely change. The saddest part for me is that he is quite a highly functioning person that probably only needs a small amount of meds to be fairly stable . But he was drinking the whole relationship which I now j is he should not have been and did not tell me he had been homeless for more than a year overseas just 2 years before we met and extreme drug abuse as well. I feel extremely betrayed by home but also due to no self reflection he slso makes me out to be a really bad person and have done wrong by him for some reason. Itās sad that the one person in his life that he listens to is avoiding his illness and enabling his actions towards me. His father told me that he told him he was not going to tell me about his past because he wanted us to work yet you can not hide who you are from your partner it will come out . There are 3 other Facebook accounts with him during his 18minth homeless psychosis episode that he canāt remove so I know now and he canāt hide that. Itās a very sad situation when someone has so much shame around their diagnosis and last that they are willing to cut the person they love the most out of their life purely to continue to not accept themself. Even tho I would have accepted him either way. Just struggling and needed to write this I guess. I also donāt think he has anasognosia, I think he just has such deep shame and is in denial of the illness as when I asked him what his diagnosis was he said āno commentā, not that he didnāt have a diagnosis. Xx help me please ? Anyone relate ?
Itās completely mind f*fucking .Heās not whom you know or think he can be . Iām sorry youāre going through this. Be careful please. Myex ( non medicated and does not believe heās sick, cause his parents let him live like that ) Tried to blow my car up and police had to go warn him, stuff was shows up my tailpipe and my car wouldāve caught fire .
If heās not willing to help himself for you and him and the relationship, Itās best to walk away, no contact. Iām sorry ik how much that hurts to read. But , so much if what you wrote , I can resonate with, They need medication. Literally even thinking about my ex triggers me , I fear driving anywhereā¦.Please take care of yourself. If heās not gonna help himself, youāre better off walking away. Itās so much trauma 
Well, something I noticed on the other forum which Iāve done too. I noticed this mainly with getting a job for some schizophrenics. I noticed that people would get really excited over filling out an application and going for an interview and then when they didnāt get the job they would just say, āOh wellā, like they never cared about it in the first place. They treated getting a job as this big, life changing event and in the next breath they talk like it never really mattered, even like it was a big joke.
Iāve done this too, I used to take my job as seriously as any ānormieā would take theirs but now I could quit and feel no regrets or like it was no big deal. And I say all this because it seems like your boyfriend is treating your relationship like this. Maybe at one time it was important to him but now, almost on a whim heās ready to give it up like it was no big deal. I mean when you have schizophrenia then just surviving is a herculean task and jobs and boyfriends and girlfriends are extra baggage if you will, and weāll get rid of them without thinking twice maybe because we never expected to have them in the first place because itās not common so we arenāt really losing anything.
Itās a messed up way to look at things and some schizophrenics are able to have real, committed relationships but many may give those things up on a whim. I donāt want to paint all schizophrenics as being like this because I know of schizophrenics who are in love or like their jobs but Iāve seen enough schizophrenics give up too quickly and act like it was no big deal in the first place. I want to preserve the dignity of my fellow schizophrenics but this phenomena of giving up is something Iāve noticed. Iām sorry if this is a negative post but it may shed light on where your boyfriend is mentally.