I have mentioned before that my daughter’s best friend also deals with issues with her mental health. In some ways that is good because of the support they give each other. They can comfort each other.
But I have seen incidents where this is not a good thing. Sometimes their moods can affect the other. There are times when her friend’s mood can affect my daughter’s moods and vise verse. It’s like there is a codependent element to their friendship.
Lately my daughter’s friends seems to be heading in a direction that doesn’t seem healthy… it seems to be affected by the fact that her mother has been having some health issues.
We had her over for a sleepover with my daughter and she was talking about going to clown college in Albany and a side show workshop at Coney Island…
She seemed quite serious about this.
I kept thinking, “she wants to become a carny.” Was she serious? I have heard that the life of a carny is pretty rough. But I couldn’t say anything because she isn’t my daughter and it seems that her mother isn’t providing input on this because of her health.
My wife is concerned that Allie might want to go with her. Since my daughter doesn’t have specific plans for after graduation …
And because of the codependent element of their friendship.
Don’t get me wrong. We think the world of my daughter’s friend. I don’t think we would have known about the potential of my daughter’s MI if it hadn’t been for her friend.
Both girls are going on the senior trip to an amusement park.
The principal of the small Christian school my girls go to and my wife teaches at is aware of my daughter’s MI… and has been very understanding and supportive. He did say that he is more concerned about my daughter’s friend on the senior trip than he is for my daughter right now.