I’m hoping that I don’t open up a big can of worms here but I’m not one to not try and find out anyways.
As a family member or caregiver do you sometimes feels like you are in the wrong for being normal? Keep in mind I don’t believe in normal but for lack of a better word. It’s just that I honestly do cringe when I see the word “normie” like it automatically puts someone without a mental illness in the category of being selfish, un-empathetic, judgmental, uncaring and like they have an easy life with no cares in the world. Ok so I am going to open that can. I sometimes feel like being categorized as normie is not so different then being categorized as schizo. It comes with it’s own form of prejudice or preconceived opinions. That because a normies goals are different that they are not worth the same amount of consideration. Like there is this invisible line drawn in the sand with me on one side and my son on the other. I want to erase that line because we are both here side by side, together.
In the past I have had my son tell me that he doesn’t want to be normal. Neither do I. Normal does not exist. I find it difficult because the very things that he does not want to be or do are the same things that are supporting him. I find it frustrating. My husband basically supports us so that my son and I can stay at home. Without normies in his life, where would he be? I know that is not the case with everyone so please understand that this is just my frustrations with my situation.
Why can’t we just do what we think is important to us without it being justified as normal or being better then. This world requires all of us. I guess to sum it up. I am not diagnosed with a mental illness but I am not normal because there is no such thing. I’m a person like anyone else with goals and feelings and just because they are different it doesn’t mean they are any less important.
My apologies in advance if I am offending anyone, it’s just really been bothering me lately.