One of my co workers mentioned she is going for disability due to a slew of health issues but that money was an issue for her and that’s why she waited this long to file for disability. I have always been very supportive of her health issues. Long story short, she went onto say, “yeah it’s bad enough that my husband is already on, oh I can’t think of what it’s called, it’s what crazy people get”. She was referring to SSI.
Well my heart sank, I know I should be used to peoples ignorance and apathy by now, especially when it comes to issues regarding mental illness, but it still hurt. And I’ve always been suppprtive of her issues with her health, her marriage, etc
Very few people know about my son’s illness, I chose it this way. I felt most comfortable taking this route. No one @ my Work knows.
But I can’t help but wonder, if she DID know, would she still have said that? Most likely not, but not because she had empathy, but because I’m her boss.
It’s such a shame that society can’t talk about this openly without being afraid of the stigma. All part of my trying to shield my son from the ugliness that I know exists in this world.
I have to be honest here, it will be tough at her next review for a raise which is decided by me. But I also know I need to be fair and judge her solely on her work performance. And she is a dependable, hard-working person.
I know two wrongs don’t make a right, and I have to try hard to remember that.