My gf and I have been dating almost 3 years now. She was very clear with her conditions when we first met, and I really had no idea what I was getting myself into. I am patient, compassionate, and very understanding. I thought that was enough.
There are times when she is perfectly fine. She’s extremely social. She lights up the room and everyone loves her. With that being said, she still feels very, very lonely. She fails to see how much people care about her, and believes that all her friendships are shallow. She feels very lonely inside.
She has positive symptoms. She hears whispers and sees shadows. There a few “people” that are constantly in her world. She is aware that they aren’t real, but they can be very rude to her which scares her.
Normally, she’s highly functional. She does a great job at identifying what’s real and what’s not. No one would have guessed that she suffers from SZ unless they were told.
She can be very mean, and cold when she’s under stress. While she display these negative symptoms, I try to be understanding, but I really don’t know how to help her cope. Lately, she’s been under great amount of stress. She doesn’t want to leave the house, because she sees “them”. She’s been very emotional and constantly crying alone. She hides this side of her and deals with it on her own, so I haven’t seen what she’s really like. I wouldn’t have known about this had she not tell me.
I guess my question is, how do I help her cope? I’ve convinced her to seek professional help, but I want to be able to do more than to tell her to “go see a therapist.” She’s so lonely and depressed, and she’s absorbing everything while putting on a fake mask to everyone including me. It really hurts me to see her this way. I want to help her so badly, but I don’t know how.
I apologize for my grammar and poorly written post. It’s 2am here and I’m just about asleep while typing all of this out.