Dealing With Grief During the Holidays

December 11, 2015 by Cass

It’s a strange thing to grieve. You get waves crashing at you that come at different times, mostly when you are not thinking about them. This is what makes it such a cruel feeling, but for many of us one that we wouldn’t change because it simply means that we have cared deeply. This holidays are upon us and its a time where you are seeing adverts for happiness everywhere you go. But what happens if you simply cannot be happy. You cannot find peace and yet you are being forced to see it everywhere….well it can make this time of year a very hard one to face. So I thought I would talk a bit about how you can get through the holidays without it affecting your future.

The holidays are/were appropriate for traditional cultures who shared things anyway all year. These holidays are a cultural artifact and remind us mostly of what has changed in our culture and made shared humanity and the shared fate-of-humanity less relevant, and correspondingly less happy or even tolerable. The culture needs to change to accommodate our needs. It needs to change in way more than just one way.