Jane57
My gf has always had delusional grandiose disorder. Which is just that.
As SLW stated
– he has a deal with some big corporations and has millions in the bank nikki has multiple bank accounts with exact total of $87 million usd
– he wrote a bunch of old sitcoms that replay on tv and they owe him residuals **nikki claims movies were made about her i.e. Taken Eyes Wide Shut and so on. **
– he can tell the future and predict when people will die **nikki already claims that certain people are dead and the ones we see are just robots duplicates. **
– he knows and talks to lots of famous people - he sees some around the neighborhood **this one is a daily occurrence Nicole Kidman Kate Hudson and a few more. **
– he’s invented something specific and they have one in the Vatican. **nikki didn’t invent anything but the Vatican holds her Birth Certificate and knows of her true identity and purpose. **
– he has lots of false memories about things he’s done, people he knows or has been in a relationship with **nikki is same just add traveled the world in private jets. She is also groomed to be High Priestess when time come. **
She actually has been on Abilify orally for 2 weeks now and first injection is tomorrow.
NikkiSam, thats tough on you . I often wonder how people cope when its a girlfriend/boyfriend , spouse etc as opposed to a son or daughter.
Those are similar it seems to slw .
My son things things were planned for him way back, he says there is a house for him , somewhere to live but he can’t go there till he can read minds.
He still thinks he is going to be abducted and lets just say assaulted by a bunch of men in a van.
Lots more, but those your GF has are very specific aren’t they.
My son is quite animated and argumentative, i just try now to remove myself from him when he is in this mood. He had his depot paliperidone y,day. He was in a mood and still is today.
It’s not easy. Have had my challenges. I am lucky that the police courts hospital all know her and I which makes it a lot easier cause she can not say I’m starving her or hitting her or keeping meds from her and of course keeping $87 million dollars away from her. her brother and mother don’t help her any longer. She is 30 and she had done a few things like steal from her mother jewelry cash etc. to feed a drug habit. I speak to them and keep them posted on her condition.
As the (sane) BF I don’t even know if I’m sane anymore or what it even looks like. My life has drastically changed the past 6 years. I do love her and in it for the long haul. I being a parent (children grown) can not imagine what parents go through with a child.
Hi slw My son has similar delusions. I am baffled to why he has these delusions and why people who have been diagnosed with schizophrenia and treated with antipsychotics have the similarities of delusions. From what I have researched is that there is not a lot known about delusions. I keep thinking they are caused by the antipsychotic medications but no one will confirm this. I just think it is so bizarre how similar the delusions are to others on the medication.
My family member’s delusions were dramatically worse during the years prior to treatment with AP medications. Delusions are part of the illness, a positive symptom of psychosis.
Yes, and to be quite honest there seems to be similar themes. I try not to buy into their paranoia but you are right there are similar beliefs. Early on I have to admit, it made me question and wonder. Now, I guess I have come to believe that people are more alike than they are different and have similar fears.
@jaxy Hi Jaxy, you might not hear back from @slw right away. Last we heard her son was on meds and she was seeing good results.
In regards to your concerns about anti-psychotics causing delusions, my son has never been medicated except for 3 days on Geodon. His paranoia delusions were in place long before those three days and have continued without him being on meds. Many of my son’s delusions are similar to other peoples’ delusions.
I actually have wondered this too, I think it’s probably normal to sometimes think that, my son will often say “ mum medication can’t change my thoughts”
What also I find fascinating is the similarity of speech, the themes for instance I had never heard of the illuminati, my son never mentioned them and I am not sure when he actually heard of them or how , but I’ve noticed here that others have mentioned this, and secret service, the masons etc.
I think we’re our I’ll relatives searching for something online and these things became what they focused on.
My boyfriend or was fiance (dated 8 years on and off ) always had drug /drinking problems - lots if trauma from when he was a child. 2 years ago he moved in- it was amazing for a few months then he started telling me about him bejng tortured in a bar bathroom and it went on and on- and so much worse. We figured it - he was havjng delusions. He was extremely paranoid. I contacted his parents and they agreed with me that something needs to be done. We all got him into a facility- he stayed 5 days - (had him on Abilify) He was diagnosed with schizophrenia paranoia- he checked himself out- threw the meds AWAY! He was good for 4 days and spiraled hardcore. I explained to him hes mentally ill and needs that Abilify…well he got mad and ended our relationship and moved home with his parents
Fast Forward a year later (now) we do communicate (i still love him so much ) but hes unmedicated and his parents let him live like hes completely fine. Also treat him like hes a baby.
He sends me drawings of the third eye- drawings of penial gland - torture- just goes on and on obsessively about God and this torture that happened. I can SEE hes deteriorating - he cant think straight- his hygiene has suffered - all he speaks about is " the gods " and how " hes the victim at work " and he will go days ignoring my texts- he wont call…ever. He seems extremely narcissistic…which is so sad. . Hes such a different man than he used to be. He says his dad cuts him off while he talks about the touture or about God or anything to show hes not well. The mom influences the delusions by agreeing with him… i dont know what to think or how to think about him . I know hes not well.
He will text me that he loves me but then he will cancel our plans because his dad made other plans for him…but he never confronts his dad saying " dad- i have plans " He just stands me up. Ive been understanding- but he will say he loves me but then i won’t hear from him for 2 days…He ignored me at Christmas time (i bought him gifts and gave them to him a week before ) He did nothing for me - not even text me. but when he DOES text me its just about him and magik and how tv shows are about him. I feel hes been in psychosis for a month now at least.
I don’t know how to get through this. He treats me so poorly but seeing him not be him- hurts so much. This is so much up and down. Weve been through so much together- but him ghosting me and invaldating my feelings and just being verbally cruel is so difficult- so is being stood up with no notice for his parents and its making me feel worthless …ive stood by his side- i do not argue with the delusions or the being stood up …i just want the man back that he ised to be
Condolences, many of us here could have written your post. While the specific delusions may vary, the basics are almost all depressingly the same. It is extremely challenging attempting to have a relationship with someone with SZ-spectrum disorder, especially if that person is unmedicated. At least he is not violent or threatening to you or his family.
If you haven’t already, educate yourself further. This is a great place to start: https://leapinstitute.org/
This is almost EXACTLY what my LO is going through and the delusions are SO identical. He "facetimed " Jason Momoa and had Charlene Theron cut her hair. He produced the movie Fast & Furious X- and Trailer Park Boys are about him… God sends him messages and his church pastor was in on the touture (delusion) in a bar one night. He was on Abilify for a week and did amazing . Then he threw the meds away. Good Luck
I think everyone on this site hopes for you that that possibility could happen. However, as you know, in 8 years, the only real help was the Abilify. For me and my daughter, the only real help was a monthly injection of Haloperidol. I used the LEAP method, one step at a time, to keep her on her injection since 2018. I used to be so anti-medication, and here I am making sure she gets her shot every month. But the outcome has been very good for us. I didn’t get back the person she used to be, but I got back a very very good relationship after losing it all to her psychosis.
Delusions, catatonia, amnesia, dissociation, etc are all defense mechanisms of the mind. In fact, your mind and mine are capable of presenting some or all of these symptoms, and if it does it doesn’t automatically mean we’re crazy.
For example, I suffered amnesia for decades and nobody even knew. I didn’t know. When my amnesia ceased, I wished it hadn’t. My amnesia was the way that my mind protected me from a traumatic event that I just couldn’t deal with any other way. And now, decades later, I have to work through it.
My brother was schizophrenic, diagnosed at 18. He suffered all the above symptoms and more. He suffered severe delusions of reference; for example he would think the TV was talking to him, think he was Hitler, think Madonna was in love with him (because Madonna digs guys that walk around screaming with poop in their pants and smell like a billygoat). Don’t even try to convince him he’s wrong.
Other mental illnesses have similar and overlapping symptoms. And this is because our minds are not tabula rasa but have a limited number of “scripts” to use. This is an oversimplification but it explains why people in distress often have similar symptoms.
Indeed, and since folks with SZ grow up in the same culture as us and absorb the same news, norms, biases, concerns, etc., it stands to reason that their delusions reflect what many of us have to a far lesser, non-morbid extent. I imagine the delusions of the SZ-afflicted in very different cultures also share similarities.
I’m also convinced that one of the reasons many SZ sufferers turn their delusions viciously on loved ones is because they feel that those loved ones are essentially extensions of themselves and they can deposit their fear, shame and self-loathing onto them.
I certainly feeling some of my wife’s self-loathing is projected on to me. Because I try and see the positive side of things I often think that is a sign of closeness But then she tries to amputate me from her life regularly too, perhaps trying to package up all that loathing a push it out to sea.
But then she tries to amputate me from her life regularly too, perhaps trying to package up all that loathing a push it out to sea.