I am wondering how others deal with their loved ones if they are verbally abusive. My bf and I have been together about 5 years and I love him very much and usuallyI think he loves me too. We both have MI, he has paranoid sz and I have bipolar 1 and some personality issues too.
When he is stressed, he accuses me of doing things I"m not doing, thinking things I’m not thinking and sometimes he yells and calls me horrible things.
Some of this I know is his illness and I am matter of fact and shrug it off but sometimes when I am not doing well his rage toward me causes me to shut down or I fight with him even though I know it is futile and not his fault that he thinks I’m: cheating, spreading rumors about him, having bad thoughts about him etc. Sometimes though he is just plain mean, say I’m stupid, makes fun of how I talk, calls me a whore and mocks me.
He is also very smart and funny and supportive, my other bf’s got rid of me when I got to crazy in my own way. But he doesn’t judge me and doesn’t give up on me, so I don’t want to give up on him.
Any tips on how to deal with abusive speech? Lately I’ve been very
depressed and dissociated for awhile after he started going off on me. I am feeling a bit hopeless. Any
one else in a relationship where you both have a mental illness? I know his is much worse to deal with than mine. I would not wish sz on anyone, it is hell for him much of the time.