Hi Irene, I’m sorry things are difficult with your son right now.
My son is not on any medication. He’s only been on it once back in 2018 for just a few weeks.
He’s always been a different sort of kid - not formally diagnosed, but just about everyone who knows him thinks he’s on the spectrum though highly functional. So he’s always been pretty introverted, but his first few years of college, he had friends, he even joined a frat. But then in 2018, at the end of his junior year, he withdrew completely while living far away. I finally had the police do a wellness check and he admitted to them he was hearing voices, so they took him to the hospital. He was only there a few days. They gave him an Rx for Risperidone. He came home after that and I got him to keep taking it for a few weeks. However, he started going to an FEP program at the local university and they took him OFF of it. He said it didn’t make any difference in the voices anyway. After a few months, the program signed off on him trying school again, and so he went back in early '19, but did not sign up for classes. He withdrew again, and eventually ended up in the hospital again.
When the lease was up, he moved in with his dad for a few months, then back home with me. For a while our relationship had been very strained - he felt like I was controlling and intrusive and he may have had a point, but of course I was terrified and desperate. He was sour and sulky and I felt like I had to walk on eggshells. But over time we got closer again, and I started to see signs of his old sense of humor. He was depressed, though, about the turn his life had taken.
He had finished 3 years of college before having to drop out, so I was researching ways he might finish up closer to home, when COVID hit. I realized this was a big chance for him, and somehow we got him re-enrolled at his old university and signed up for classes that would get him to the finish line. He graduated in '21 with a degree in CS, and honestly that was enough for me. But his sister helped him with his resume and some code he’d written and published to github favorably impressed the right person, and that October he started a real job, WFH. All of this has been a tremendous boost to his self-confidence and overall happiness.
So how did he do it? I wish I could tell you. He told me that he spent a lot of time just blocking the voices out. I guess I would say it was like a form of meditation. He would focus on a phrase over and over that let him hear his OWN voice in his head instead. I’m not actually 100% sure if he still hears them or not. When he’s around other people, he can be very funny and charming, though he has that propensity to talk at length about his interests without noticing if other people are bored or not. In a way, if he is ASD, it might have a slightly protective effect. He is kind of hyper-logical, and so I think less inclined to become delusional.