Hi everyone. I’m new here but it seems like this forum could really help.
So recently my father has had problems with his medication. He started to refuse to take it after his psychiatrist deemed it okay for him to take a lower dose around last August. This seemed like a reasonable decision because my dad has been good with taking his medicine for around ten years. Once the dose was lowered however it was obvious that it shouldn’t have been done. He would stop taking them on his own and started to go through the entire side effect list. He said it would kill him. He also began to say that my mom’s food is poisonous. I believe he has had a couple of psychotic moments but he describes it as being “senseless” and “nervous.” He thinks that someone came into our home when he was senseless and put all these poisonous things in our home (certain spices for food, stain remover, toilet bowl cleaner… all of which were around before and all of which he threw out).
It was really difficult once he decided to go to a psychiatric “specialist” that a doctor friend he suddenly spoke to after years referred him to. Apparently that specialist did a bunch of tests like memory tests and deemed him to not have a mental illness. However, the number on the doctor’s card is a fax number not a phone number so we have been unable to reach him to confirm with him.
Last month we really had to get him to his actual psychiatrist or else he would get removed as a patient since he missed so many appointments (about 3 or 4 months). That was an extremely difficult and trying time and ultimately my sister and mother had to drag him to the hospital. (I go to school out of the state so it’s hard for me to actively do anything unfortunately.) After that he was hospitalized for a week, told his doctor he would take his meds, came back home and threw them down the garbage chute beforemy mother even thought he would do it.
We’re pretty much back at the same state as last month. His delusions have gotten worse (he thinks he’s going on a vacation back to our home country next month when his job isn’t stable, he thinks he’s going to be hired as a senior computer programmer since he did one interview, he keeps buying cheap, non-returnable things from the corner store as gifts to bring to his relatives). He also thinks my mom is the crazy one who needs to be taken to a psychiatrist. My mom and sister are basically fed up and tired so they’re depending on me. I tried using LEAP last time he was supposed to go to the doctor. It helped me learn a lot about his illness when I didn’t know he had it (I only learned about it last November because he was so good with his medication!). But he ultimately doesn’t see the times that he was taking the medicine as better because he has noticed all these “physical side effects,” like rashes and bumps on his arms and legs. I can’t really prove to him that it’s not part of the illness because it may actually be a side effect.
He also doesn’t trust his psychiatrist. I am afraid that there’s no other option besides hospitalization but doing that for a long amount time will be financially taxing. I’ve learned that he mainly wants to stay in america to work so he can pay for my education which makes me feel really guilty. My sister offered him the option of staying in our home country but leaving all his bank accounts in my name. In my opinion I feel he will be happy this way but it also feels like we’re throwing him away. I do want to work in mental health in the future so doing that would make me feel absolutely terrible.
Sorry for the long post but there’s a lot of things I’m conflicted about. I appreciate any help. Thanks.