Are YOU able to get out of the house at all? It may sound like a trivial question…
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Are YOU able to get out of the house? It may sound like a trivial question…
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My partner has a sever MI, not my child.
Yet I have close friends with MI children. The kind of MI that is genetic.
And that guilt and blaming of themselves is almost the most devastating part to watch.
They blame themselves. Entirely. Almost as if they KNEW that their child would suffer no matter what and that they were the one that DID it to them.
Is that true for you? Did you KNOW and then disregard? Hope for the best?
I asked my friend once, “Do you BELIEVE that you could have controlled the outcome? Or do you somehow feel as if the way you enforced or didn’t enforce certain regulations as a parent caused the disease to exacerbate itself?”
She thought a moment.
No. I don’t think so, they said.
I understand it’s genetic…
they said.
Even in their understanding my friend KNOWS logically, that it was not their actions or raising technique of their child, YET…
They blame themselves simply on the fact that it’s genetic.
WHO TF is to blame for genetics?!?!
I’m pretty sure it’s not you and you shouldn’t hold onto that guilt.
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I am able to get out to go food shopping or go to doctor’s appointments. I go to my son’s to have dinner and I do pilate’s for an hour. But that’s about it. I am afraid to leave him alone for long periods of time. I have no one to help me. I have no friends because I can’t really do much but be with him. My two sisters are in New York, they are good in helping out, but I live in Florida. I have my sons and grandkids here. At times I feel so alone.
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Well…we did close and our son participated in the move. I will write more later…just exhausted but very grateful it went as well as it did…now to drive off and leave him in the next 24 hours
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I am also sad. My son diagnosed 7 years ago and is also an alcoholic. 3 weeks ago he stopped speaking to me and his sister. I worry- but know he doesn’t s showing up for his job regularly. He lives in an apartment I bought after living with us for 6 years. He is supposed to pay me rent and cable every month. When I stopped speaking to me he stopped paying. This is new behavior. I hope he makes good choices. I am praying all day everyday.
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I am writing to share an update. Unfortunately my son sz alcoholic also stopped talking to his brother and quit his job. I asked my youngest son to go by and check on him. He was really drunk then downed some traxadone with 1/2 bottle of vodka and was unresponsive. I was summoned to his apt couldn’t get a reaction and his breathing slowed. 911 and he has been in ICU since Friday 2 am.
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I’m so glad you sent his brother to check on him. You and your family are really dealing with a difficult time right now. Please keep us updated.
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praying for you all. so sorry for what you are going through.
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Jeanette, it’s a frightening place you must be in. I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s scary and exhausting to have a loved one in such a critical state. Stay strong, remember to take care of yourself. If you need sleep, sleep, if you need space, don’t be afraid to take it. I’ve been where you are… the waiting and hoping and praying for the best is torment. Not knowing if they’ll come out of it at all or if they’ll have lasting cognitive damage… it’s a horrifying situation. I feel for you and my thoughts are with you.
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@Jeannet… I’m so sorry Jeannet, life for our MI kids is so unfair. My thoughts are with you.
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So sorry , every mothers nightmare 
, my prayers and thoughts with you . I really hope and pray he will be fine 
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I am so sorry! I am sending prayers.
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He agreed to go to the psych ward- he agreed to figure out his meds then go to 30 day rehab… fingers crossed
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So glad he made it out of ICU and is agreeing to go to the psych ward…fingers crossed here as well.
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Wonderful news
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This describes my mums existence exactly
Very well put and insightful
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He agreed to go to 30 day rehab at a place that does dual diagnosis clients. He will not talk to me and is very angry but is doing all the right things - so I am hopeful…
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I understand exactly how you feel. I look at pictures of my daughter when she was happy and full of life and promise and now I see how much this awful illness has stolen from her. Her life is more like an existence. It is a constant heartache isn’t it.
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I’m so sorry @Jeanette. Please give an update when you can.
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