I’m into year two as the mom of a 26 year old son who has been diagnosed with Schizophrenia.
He is living back at home, hasn’t worked in two years and spends his days either sleeping, watching sports on TV or on the computer. He is fully compliant with taking his meds and sees a psychiatrist and psychologist semi-regularly.
He maintains an active social life, but I’m quite certain that his visits to friends homes includes excess alcohol and drug use. I try to remain hopeful but find the whole situation so disheartening.
Just when I think I’m strong and can handle the daily stress I start slipping from hope to anger, sadness and frustration. On the one hand, I’m glad he’s living at home so he has a safe place - he calls it his haven. But what expectations should we hold him to?
He claims that he has poor sleep all the time, and will sometimes contribute to household chores, but often does not. What consequences should we impose?
He seems well enough to go out and socialize with his friends regularly, and on weekends he stays at their homes. When he returns he spends all day in bed for 2-3 days at a time, complaining of poor sleep. I know that poor sleep is a primary symptom of his illness, but I highly suspect this is also the result of self-medicating with drugs and alcohol when he’s with his friends to which he denies.
He gets income support from the government and although it’s minimal, he has few expenses to manage since he lives at home. Even with this, the bank has been calling our home phone incessantly, and apparently his bank account has been in overdraft for some time.
I haven’t quite figured out how we’re to deal with his debt yet again. He is a kind and gentle young man, and for that I’m very grateful for - he has never shown any violent tendencies and rarely shows anger.
I guess I’m just needing a virtual hug and some words of encouragement from someone who knows what it’s like and may have a ray of hope to share.